but we come from a family of men who are between 200 and 300 pounds, fit and agile, inculding my kid brother. He's at least 220 a little smaller then myself. What I din't understand is what went wrong, I fought for him with him, and will always love him, but not his lifestyle, being that it breaks my moms heart. We are samoans and that is not really accepted in our culture and I come to see if my brother is in here at times. But, I have and always had the tendecies to rag on him and his friends, am I bad? I love my mom and my brother, but, not his choice.plain and simple.
2007-01-14 01:11:20 · 11 answers · asked by onAhhroll 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
fitboy - still playing games huh, you think your little picture intimdates me..hell no...sit down and shut up ...
Now to get back to the rest of you, so do you not follow your parents wishes, do you allow them to think that someone may kill you or you may kill yourself by that type of sex life...will it be easy to console my mom when she buries her own child? you tell me? I am not joking the fun is over lets talk seriously, give me some good points.. and I am not even close to gay anyone with cam, want to see me and my wife here in this forum, just ask.
2007-01-14 01:34:07 · update #1
char - so you admit it also breaks your moms heart....as far as culture the samoan culture is very strict on gay lifestyle and I am a man of culture..sorry you all can say what you want but HE"S my brother and I will always try to get hin straight...so am I bad?
2007-01-14 01:39:32 · update #2
you have to see him to know - a 200 plus samoan man is not pretty at all
2007-01-14 01:42:31 · update #3
You answered your own question! It's his choice, and it seems that he has made it! If you love him, you (and your family) will get used to this in time.
2007-01-14 01:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by Dee 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I'm sorry to hear that you think his choice of lifestyle is bad...and I think a 220 pound Samoan man is rather adorable, thank you.
I just wish that YOU, my Son, would stop battering us. We're not harming you and we *didn't* make your brother gay. He became it himself. You're using us as a punching bag because you don't really want to hurt your brother(of course not) and you can be as vehemous as you want and not be face-to-face. I do hope your Brother finds the Happiness he's searching for.
Let me tell you a little about Love. Truckinotter and I have been together for 26 going on 27 years (yes monogamously) We've been together through good and bad times, through healthy and sickness (I'm having some serious health problems now) We Love each other and our Families know. Her Mom doesn't aprove but bears it because we do love each other. Please do the same for your beloved Brother.
WE'd (the LGBTQ Forum) be happy to help you if you'd let us. We'd help to support you if you'd let us.
Your Mother still does love your Brother. He's her child.
Please quit picking fights here. It won't do you any good. Please just lower your ego and step down now. Blessings, my Son.
You may feel free to email me if you'd like but please keep it civil, I'll do what I can to try and help you.
2007-01-14 11:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will take you a while to accept your brother's sexual orientation. I know for you, who comes from an ethnic group where the men are big, tall men and overtly masculine and family oriented, this kind of lifestyle is not accepted. I think you love your brother though (as does your mother) and all of you will eventually welcome him back into the family. Samoans tend to be a very religious people, so I can understand even more the tension between your core values from church and your culture and the love towards your brother on one hand, but also anger towards your brother on the other hand. This will pass.
You did nothing to influence your brother's sexual orientation. He is a homosexual just because that is what he is.
I hope this helps you. God bless you.
To Russ2246: The brother's weight is mentioned because somoan males are tall, big, strong men. When "weight" is mentioned the asker does not mean "overweight." He means that his brother is a big, muscular man (especially when compared to most other ethnic groups). Samoan men can be found on college and professionl football teams in the U.S.
2007-01-14 09:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What does his weight have to do with his sexual orientation?
If you feel your religion is going against your own family values, then it is not your family's or brother's fault.
You don't have to accept everything in a religion!
No matter what, you should love and respect your brother. Even if your religion tells you not to because of his sexual orientation.
When I came out, my sister threw the bible across the room in fury at her religion.
Times are changing, and the sooner we accept and love each other, the world will become a much greater place to us all, not just you and your family.
Sincerely,
Russ
p.s. Don't rag on your brother, that is the worse thing you could do. He didn't choose be this way, why would he choose to be unaccepted and perhaps secretly despised by his brother, family, and religion?
Ciao.
2007-01-14 09:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by russ2246 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
oh i see now
u say u'll always love him but think a bit?
what u r doing to him probably hurts his feelings
believe me it's awful to be stalked by someone who pretends to do it 4 ur own sake
u can not choose for him
he has the right to be whomever he wants
i broke my mom's heart too and i'm sorry 4 her because she never wanted a lesbian girl
i'm totally against cultures which do not allow individuals to make their own options, when it comes to sexuality , for example.
u should do somethin' for him, instead of against him
PS: yea, i'm the one which reported u sooo many times
stop being mean
2007-01-14 09:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by Charlyssie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have stated that you will always love him, so that's good. The next step is to accept him. And if you love him, that should be no problem.
As for your approval at him being gay, he doesn't need that anymore than he needs your approval for having been born.
2007-01-14 10:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For starters, it's not a choice. It was a choice for him to tell you, and that alone demonstrates his trust and love for you.
If you're going to hold that choice against him, then you can't really say you love HIM; not the real him.
2007-01-15 00:17:10 · answer #7 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him being a homosexual was NOT A CHOICE! He has to be who he is in spite of what effect it has on others. Your mother will hopefully get over this and embrace her son with her love as she should, UNCONDITIONALLY!
2007-01-14 09:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by qdeezy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK, I understand your situation. But should you really judge some one for sexual orientation? It's not his fault he can't help it.
2007-01-14 09:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Nice:a bigot in disguise.
Newly found or is *********** bla bla bla_ ing here?
Greetings:Rob.
2007-01-14 09:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋