Our son and his wife are expecting their first child this summer. Our sons birthday is a month away. I want to give him a Baby Bjorn Air Carrier as a birthday gift. My husband thinks thats "for the baby" and isn't a proper gift for the Dad-to-be as a birthday gift. I disagree and think it's more "for the Dad". Does a birthday gift really have to be all about "me me me"?
What do you think? Any suggestions for a gift? Son is 28, likes snowboarding and hiking.
2007-01-14 00:53:37 · 15 answers · asked by T G 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I would have to agree with both of you. Yes, that is a nice gift, but it is a baby shower gift, not a birthday gift. I would say it would be fine, as long as you also got him something else that is strictly for him.
2007-01-14 01:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very nice gift but keep it for the baby shower. What my mother did for me, was she held a baby shower for just the girls while the guys went fishing, then she had my fiance come back after a couple of hours and presented him with a baby gift, since most baby showers are just for women, most men don't want to attend. He really enjoyed that, said it was a nice thought since I got to open all the gifts from everyone. I would get him a gift for just him for his birthday, there are more birthdays to come when he will have his child around, and then you can buy him stuff he can use with him and his child. For my husbands birthday, I got him a cartoon that was his all time favorite, it only comes on at xmas, so I got him the DVD, so he could enjoy it with his daughter. For my brother, for his birthday, I got him two water guns, so he could have some summer fun with is son, he really enjoyed that as a gift. Just because baby is on its way, doesn't mean it has to be all about baby either. I know for my birthday gift when I was pregnant, I wanted something for me, I still wanted something to celebrate my day.
What I did for my husband was got him a card that was from the baby to be...you can find cards that say just about anything, I actually found one that said just the right words "I may be small, but my love for you is big". He kept the card. Might be a good idea to talk to his wife and do something like that. But celebrate his birth, theres lots of time to celebrate the babys birth.
2007-01-14 01:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate admiting that men are right but i think that maybe you could get him something that he enjoys doing or can relax doing because having a baby for the first time can be stressful and so he might enjoy the attention being on him for a tiny bit before the bub arrives.
Maybe you could organise a seperate baby shower and get the Baby Bjorn Air Carrier then or you could get him one of those strap chair things where you strap like a baby carrier thing around you and then he can take the baby hiking, when its a little older obviously. ( i dont know what a Baby Bjorn Air Carrier is but i hope its not what i just said cause i think i had a smart idea for once)
Congrats on the nearly new addition and good luck xoxoxox
2007-01-14 01:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by fi_beans90 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A baby bjorn is a thoughtful gift, but like your husband said- it's best left to be given at the babyshower.
Perhaps a babymoon would be a great gift (like a honeymoon but during pregnancy.. one last vacation before baby) Even a hotel room for one night would be little more then a new baby bjorn and would be remembered forever.
2007-01-14 01:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would give my son something relating to the baby but that he could use. The baby carrier is really not something any guy would want for his birthday. How about a digital picture frame for his desk, when the baby is born he can put pictures in it that would keep changing. That way he would have a slide show of his baby. Or, how about a book about Fatherhood and maybe something cute like matching T-shirts (for Dad and baby). See what I mean. While I know that you are just as excited to become a Grandma (BTW congratulations) the soon to be Dad is your baby boy!
2007-01-14 01:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by Nancy W 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would get the Baby Bjorn for a shower gift or a welcome baby gift.. It doesn't really seem like a birthday gift for your son to me. But it's not about what I like. Do you think your son would like it, or do you think he'd feel disappointed?
2007-01-14 02:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by xangelkisses02x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with your husband, sorry. If it is his birthday than he should get a gift for him, I think a lot of new parents become slightly depressed when everything is about the baby and they have no self time/possesions. Good luck!
2007-01-14 01:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by mdoud01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's feeling a little selfish definitely get him something for just him. If he's like we were get stuff for the baby. We were soooo excited. If he's a little of both get something that incorporates both. Something like a hiking outfit for the baby or a snowsuit. I don't know if those things exist because I live in Texas. We have a lot of hunters though and they have camo onsies. So I figured they would have that.
2007-01-14 01:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by Kennedy & Kevin's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is a crucial time to reinforce the fact that your son's birthday is about him. yes there is a baby on the way but you are celebrating your son's birth not your grandchild's birth. not quite yet anyway. there will be plenty of time to focus on the new baby. for this special occasion let your son know how much you care and get something for him. giftcards are always great at that age. if you want to get him something sports oriented, you probably won't pick the right thing anyway. i learned that with my hubby so i just get him a giftcard if i think he wants something specific. or you could get him a visa pre paid credit card that way if he does want to spend it on the baby it's his choice.
2007-01-14 01:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by pinky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with your husband. With every thing happening with the baby, it's nice to get something just for you. It's not me, me, me. You are celebrating HIS birth. You could get him a plaque or something about being a Dad, but save the baby gifts for when the baby gets here.
2007-01-14 01:40:03 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋