I was set up by family members for a crime that never happened, spent 7 years in prison. I was later found exonerated (innocent) and released. While in prison my entire family refused to communicate with me via mail or even visit me. My wife divorced me and took every thing. I've since sued and received a 18.8 million dollar settlement from the state, county and city for wrongful imprisonment.
I had to live on the streets for a couple months until i had found a job and saved enough for an apartment. Now that i have this settlement, the entire family wants me back in the family. My ex wants to divorce her current husband and remarry me.
I don't feel like they are sincere, i believe they just want to do their best to get some cash out of me. I don't want to forgive them for their attitudes. I basically hate them all. Am i wrong to feel this way and should i forgive them? opinions please.
2007-01-13 23:27:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm thinking i need a new life, free of all of my family members. I want to write them off as if they don't exist.
I'm finding it difficult to trust anyone i meet. I've set up a trust with the money i received from the settlement.
This past christmas i donated $20,000 to a homeless shelter that was short of funding.
2007-01-14 00:33:58 · update #1
big NO! it is all said that; true persons help you in times of touble. right?
when they set you up and let you suffer for the crime you didnt do, they have never been a family to you. and the time you need someone who believes you and comforts you (your wife). she walked away and left you. so,
what you feel is i think is just right and so normal! dont fogive them and forget them! its time to move on! anyway, for 7 years you carry that burden all alone, i guess you can make your life RIGHT all alone too. or else find somebody who you think will really love you and never will leave you in times of hardship and wellness.
move on...
2007-01-13 23:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by m0cca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm umm umm!!!!!! I am always an advocate of family always being family. However, from what you have said, it seems they did not treat you like a family should. Therefore, there is no need for you to treat them well with the money you received as a result of the wrong they did to you. I would start life fresh and new - without any of them, especially the ex. How is she going to not visit you at all, then come back when the money is there....I am guessing she didn't want to divorce her current mate before you received your money from the state, right?
I am truely sorry for your misfortune - jail is somewhere I never wish to be. I am ecstatic that you have succeded in your efforts against the state. PLEASE DO NOT LET THEM BACK IN YOUR LIFE!!!! THAT REEKS OF ADDITIONAL HEARTACHE!
Let the fake people be fake together - you just keep on keeping it real.
And please do not squander your money away - you don't want to create a situation where you will ever need them again, especially if you choose to cut them off now...
2007-01-13 23:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forgive them but say I now don't want to have any contact with you. Yep I think they are only after your money. Where were they when you had none and were living on the streets? Leave them in the dust of your new sports car. I think the way you feel is completely justified. What kind of family turns their back on you for 7 years. Yeah they can be mad at the beginning but eventually you'd think they would at least write. Just move on and know you made the right decision for you. Otherwise your going to end up broke and your family probably won't pick you up then either.
2007-01-13 23:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by jipp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Michael
whatever went with you was very sad.it is very advisable to fogive everyone. though forgiving and forgetting are two different things.forgive them without forgetting their deeds.No doubt the people in your case love money more than you. There are times when people commit crimes yet the family support is there.In your case your family was neither supportive not it had any faith in you.but forgive them without forgetting their selfishness . And your wife who wants to divorce her current husband is divorcing for what and whom?Refuse any such offer that is born out of greed.You are not wrong to think this way but do not burn yourself inthe fire of hatred. it will not do any good to you. You have got money. live well. Be happy.
2007-01-14 00:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by nandita r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see, they (your family), set you up for a crime.
This caused you to spend 7 years in prison, while family did not get in touch with you in any way.
Your wife divorced you, and wiped you out.
Now you are a millionare and your wife and family want you back.
Yes, forgive them, the hate will only hurt you. But go back and see if they do it again.? That would make you a gluten for punishment.
2007-01-14 00:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anne2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow 7 years in prison is along time...and all the money in the world wont make up for your lost time....you lost your whole life.....you are not wrong to feel this way about your family....this is your life and you have issues right now eith the family take your time before jumping in with both feet...go to counseling and pray..i feel bad that that all this happened to you.. keep your faith and then take a long vacation . just for self..you have alot of money..invest some of it and have fun with the rest you sound like you are a good person and deserve it.. good luck to you.
2007-01-13 23:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by mary c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that is really messed up and all they do want is your money. Do what your heart tells you to do, I would forgive them but not forget. That doesn't mean to have a realationship with them. When you forgive someone even when it's not your fault you feel free. I'm glad you are doing well and that money doesn't make up for you leaving in hell for 7 years.
God Bless You
2007-01-13 23:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you got it even worse than I do! Seven years...naaah, I couldn't forgive that. I don't see anything wrong with your attitude. Just because they're your family doesn't mean they can't also be total jerks, y'know? I can relate, tho--I lost my job and had one bad day, one vulnerable moment, and my ex encouraged me to commit suicide and both parents are pissed I didn't succeed. I'm not forgiving them, I don't see why you should.
2007-01-13 23:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
Nice to hear from you that you were acquitted. Whatever things had happened, the thing is, they are your family. And we are born to commit mistakes and to forgive as well. So, whatever things happened before, learn of some things that has something to do with you and your family. Who will help you more and on other things rather than your family. So, learn and try to forgive your family. Not as fast as now, but give yourself the way to do that.
Try it and I'm sure it'll work.. Please do not lose your family.
Take care!
2007-01-13 23:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you could say you could forgive them yet you have not had your spouse and little ones raped and murdered.... i've got been following the tale and could admit i've got had nightmares over it. how terrifying and frightening, to assert the least. i be responsive to I have no theory what that guy is going via -- i won't be able to think of being reliable sufficient to even bypass to the trial of the guy that murdered my family members, not to show going to a 2d one (the two adult men who did that to his family members are being tried one by one). i wouldn't in any respect be waiting to forgive every physique who did that to my family members -- those 2 adult men are evil and disgusting. I taped the oprah interview and have been putting off observing it, to be truthful. that's stressful to even hear approximately what got here approximately for me. i've got heard rates from the two approximately what got here approximately and that they are announcing, "it have been given out of hand" -- and that's merely honestly unforgivable to me.
2016-10-19 23:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋