Simple things like:
-get dressed without you helping them find clothes/underwear in there dresser drawer
-tell time
-cook
-do dishes
-look for an item they misplaced while you were out and they think you know where it is?
I can't be the only one...
2007-01-13 23:02:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is so funny! I didn't know oil needed to be changed daily! Hmmm, or the grass to be cut every day...like, say, cleaning the house? fixing dinner?
Two people work full time away from home, only one full time once they get home too...
2007-01-13 23:09:23 · update #1
My husband doesn't do most of the things he promised to do. I do most of the things I promised to do... He helped the first 2 weeks of marriage, now he complains that I don't keep the house clean while he sits on the computer playing video games.
2007-01-13 23:12:57 · update #2
Thanks, Lizzo, that is good advice!!!!!
2007-01-13 23:13:57 · update #3
Your husband will act like a helpless moron, as long as you cater to his little game and play mommie. If this annoys you, simply stop.
If he can't find his clothes, how is this your problem?
If he asks you what time it is and he's standing right in front of the big grandfather clock, say "I don't know".
After dinner, say "I cooked today, so you do the dishes. Tomorrow you can cook and I'll clean up afterwards."
etc. etc. etc.
You get the idea. Stop enabling him.
2007-01-13 23:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have been married twice. My first husband would change clothes and leave them in the floor never picked them up. I would come home from work and find glasses in the Den where he would leave them. Never ever washed clothes. When we divorced he was complaining about doing laundry. I told him I guess the laundry fairy moved out.
My husband now is a little better, But he will help out when I ask. But why should I have to ask.? It like they can't see things that need to be done. I work 12 hour shifts 7p til7am 60 hours a week he works 35 hours a week. And still can;t get dressed without asking me where is his work shoes are..Or do I have a clean uniform. All he has to do is look in the closet Where I all ways hang them up. Its like I have two full time jobs and then he wonders why I am so tired all the time.
2007-01-13 23:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not alone. For the man who discussed changing the oil, mowing the lawn, etc - how many intruders do you have every week? What would you rather do - mow the lawn once a week or do the ironing every day? Clean the toilet every day or change the oil once in a while?
2007-01-13 23:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No doubt the wife forgot how to cut the grass, change the car's oil, and be the first to grab the gun when an intruder enters.
American women are soooo sexist.
2007-01-13 23:07:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're a Nag if you start asking him to help. So just take your cues from him. His down time is your down time. If he asks when is dinner, ask him when he wants to turn off the game and go make and have dinner with you. If he asks where is his favorite shirt, say, well, just let me know when you want to do laundry and we can start. If he asks why the phone got cut off, just invite him to let you know when he is available for paying bills. Etc...try to maintain a sense of humor.
2007-01-13 23:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the contract you signed. It may not be a written contract but a contract it is. What is it that you expect of him? Did you make it clear from the beginning and reminded him or just let it to chance? Habits are created, they are not instinctual.
2007-01-13 23:10:16 · answer #6 · answered by emiliosailez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband never do anything around the house
2007-01-13 23:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by Linda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY HEY HEY lets not all get carried away now,Women forget things to ya know. like stop cleaning the house, less sex once your married, they let themselves get fat, they sleep alot,they hardly cook, and they wonder y men cheat.
2007-01-13 23:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by lesuiremike 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes! I know what you mean.... AND they also get "Domestic Blindness" once they get married. ie; Where are my socks, I cant find them anywhere?!!!( and they are in the sock draw!)-- need I go on. I have no idea why they do that sort of thing - and its INFURIATING!
2007-01-13 23:31:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband tried to do that but I told him that his mother does not live here anymore and that I am his wife not his mother and if he wanted his mother, he should call her
2007-01-13 23:12:05 · answer #10 · answered by kelsey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋