I don't know what to do at this exact moment. My husband just left our house at 3 am to go 20 minutes away to get weed... We have 2 children and he's SO drunk. I have no clue what to do atm.... In the long run sure I think I can come up with that but, now... I am really confused... and he just up and left me.... to go get drugs.... plz REAL answers only... do i call the cops? my father lives like 10 min away do i call him WHAT?! Any advice? PLZ
2007-01-13 22:51:39 · 20 answers · asked by Monkey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
call your dad. DUI can land your husband's *** in jail.
cops is the LAST resort.
anybody around with a car, any neighbors that you know decently well, i hope you know where his dealer lives?
2007-01-13 22:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by John C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's sad to say but any person who walks out "drunk" at 3 am for drugs has a serious problem. I think the path that's ahead of you looks like it's going to be long and hazardous. You would be endangering your children by staying, since it sounds like he's giving up responsible living for a habit (and yes it's a habit when you need it at that hour) Take your kids out of that situation as soon as possible, before they're hurt. Call your dad, if for no other reason but to have a shoulder to lean on and someone to support and guide you who might be better acquainted with your life and know more details on what's been going on prior to just this incident, and to witness anything that could take place between now and your husbands return.
2007-01-13 23:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by Chele 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you're involved with this behavior too if you're up at 3a.m. Come on now----we all didn't fall off the turnip truck yesterday. You're a weed smoker too. People who want to point the finger at another are guilty too. You're just wanting everyone to focus on your husbands behavior.
Drugs are probably smoked in your home where you have 2 children sleeping at the moment. Second hand POT smoke---breathed into your children's lungs while they sleep. Now that's really good parenting!! NOT!
You both need a wake up call-----The priorities in your lives is clearly irresponsible. Drinking to the point up drunkenness and then the drug usage!! You're parents -----what kind of example are you setting for your children.
You are setting the tone for your children to grow up thinking what you're doing is a. o.k. and it's NOT!!
One day the POLICE or the SHERIFF will be knocking at your door because your children are taught to call 911 and both of you will be placed into custody---and your poor children will be placed in foster-care. Think about your actions and change your life around!
2007-01-13 23:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can think of is that old 1960s song by Loretta Lynn - Don't come home a-drinkin' with lovin' on your mind. BQ - I work with a man in his 50s who has become painfully addicted to Internet porn. He's in that phase where he hates what he does but that compulsion to act out is overpowering. He's married and has a sweet, respectable relationship with his wife....a very fine woman...but they've drifted apart. He feels like they're brother and sister instead of a husband and wife. The shame and confusion became too much for him until the fateful Saturday afternoon I took him fishing and he completely opened up. "How can I break a forty-five-years-old habit?" Addiction can quickly become a painfully lonely aspect in a person's life. The addiction makes them feel as if no one understands their struggle. It can even lead its victim to despair and pitch him over the edge.
2016-05-23 23:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call the cops or your father there's no need 2 get them involved that Will only make things worse.. Just explain 2 him when he gets back that Ur not happy and then wait til 2moro morning and then get stuck in2 him about it.. I know if I was in his shoes I'd feel heaps bad in the morning but when I'm drunk and stoned I wouldn't think and care as much. Hope that helps, Goodluck :)
2007-01-13 23:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by NRG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,dear, you obviously have legitimate concerns.
Do call Dad and let him know what happened. Ask him what he thinks you need to do. You need to ask yourself some questions, like, how will I support myself and the kids? You can go to Social Services and apply for subsidized housing and subsidized daycare. You can apply for WIC or food stamps. You can apply for state insurance. Make sure you get the car. Do your budget.
How he behaves is his choice. How you respond to his behaviors is yours. Try not to just React. Take a deep breath, take a look at the situation objectively, and Respond. Take a look 6 months down the road and work towards that being a positive time. Not everything happens immediately.
2007-01-13 23:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him know you will leave and divorce him if he doesn't stop drinking and doing drugs. Some people need programs to stop and some can just quit on their own, but it's time for him to grow up and take care of his family. If he's in any way abusive you should leave now and take the kids with you. Nothing will change unless you act because just like with a child you are essentially rewarding his behavior.
2007-01-13 23:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pack a bag...take the kids and go to your dads house.....tomorrow or when the husband is at work, get a restraining order and change the locks....call a lawyer and get a divorce....or soon you will lose everything to his drug habit or someone will be in jail...this is not the way to raise kids and you run the risk of having them taken away from you as well....good luck
2007-01-13 23:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he a good father and a good husband?
Is he abusing you or your kids in any way?
Is this a pattern of behaviour?
Maybe you should call your father...I don't know how long this has been happening or the kind of man you husband is...is he the kind you can talk to?
Good luck....please be safe
2007-01-13 23:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by big h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops then go to your dads house. Then give the guy an choice of either cleaning up his act or go somewhere else.
2007-01-14 03:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by oldokie1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops and have him arrested when he comes home. In the morning call a locksmith and have the locks changed. Then get a divorce lawyer organised.
2007-01-13 22:57:22 · answer #11 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋