My fiance or i say DEFACTO, cause were not married yet and we have a beautiful daughter. dont love me anymore because of what i did in the past. I HIT HER CHEATED ON HER she suffers for 4 yrs with that i only cheated once not many. the day she plans to go abroad to work she ask me to marry her but stupid me was the one saying IM NOT READY YET. the day i told her that she's sayin i cant blame her for everythin might happen... when she was there abroad workin for 3 months she found somebody that really catches her HEART. mature, all the traits she like was there on that guy. and three months past she came home. and told me she dont love me anymore. she stayed here in my house but their communication is constant... i can even hear her sayin I LOVE YOU to the guy. plz help what should i do to get her back i love her with all my heart i cant move, stand, cope up without her.. how am I going to get her back plz help me. she wants me to change of being mature and act like a real father.
2007-01-13 21:45:40 · 5 answers · asked by Lynbert L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you messed up, and now you have to deal with the consequences. one word karma.
2007-01-13 21:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure of what you want because you might get it. Currently your emotions are out of whack and you cannot see straight. All of us have been through similar situations . Are you sure you want her back? Why? Could it be because right now she does not want you? That blow to the ego does strange things to one's mind. You see what we cannot have becomes attractive to us. It is natural, the human condition. If I cannot have grapes because the doctor said no grapes for two weeks, my mouth waters every time I open the refrigerator, even though I'd have grapes once or twice a week. The forbidden fruit theory.
You are going through hell, but this too shall pass. It will take time...and another love.
2007-01-14 06:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by emiliosailez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you lost her!!! there is nothing you can do. she does not love you anymore and it is because when she still loved you, you abused her......she finally wised up and found someone who treats her the way she deserves.
maybe this will teach you in the future you should not take anyone for granted. just like love can grow between people, love can also die if you kill it.
when someone love you and then falls out of love, there is normally a good reason and once that love dies, it can never be the same again.
let her go and make a good life for herself. you had 4 years to try and screwed it......now is her turn to make herself happy. and you go your way and hopefully you will find love again. this time, nurture the love, make it grow, treat love like a delicate flower that if you are too rough to it, will wither and die...learn and you will find happiness again.
2007-01-14 05:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want her back, mature, be the husband she wants, be the father the child needs, change yourself, stop the immature way u live, and be that person she can count on if u want her back. only change can bring her back to u, through your actions. go to her tell her u acknowledge what u did to her has hurt her, be remorseful for what u have done, show her your mature enough to know when u did something, and make plans to change your past ways, no matter what u got to do, just do it if u want her back. she has to be able to feel safe with u, and feel your not going to let her down again.
2007-01-14 06:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made your bed, now you have to lie in it. Some time growing up or changing comes to soon. 4 years is a long time, consider her as a friend since you do have a child together but don't beat yourself over backwards for a relationship, I don't think she owes you anything, nevertheless another chance.
2007-01-14 06:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋