my good friend has herpes..?

Question

i have this friend, i met her this past summer, and in the summer she contracted herpes, and i was there for her, i promised to never tell anyone. But recently she has come to visit me at college, and she had sex with this guy who is good friends with my really good friend who is like my brother. I heard about her doing it from my friends, and she lied to me than admitted it, she didn't even use protection, and she did it at least 4 occasions. She also likes to hit on guys i like and guys that talk to me, while i promised to never tell i feel like it is immoral to not have these people informed. what would you do?

i know for a fact she contracted it this summer, and it wasn't just a fake story, however she has told 2 guys, but she tells them she was raped and contracted it.

Answer 1

I have a different take on this. Everyone is responsible for his or her own body. It's up to each individual to protect ourselves from disease and unwanted pregnancies.

If your male friend was sleeping with this girl unprotected, he's an idiot. He should assume going into a sexual situation that he could a) get the woman pregnant and b) that the woman HAS a disease. ALWAYS.

I taught my son very early that no matter what form of birth control the woman claims to be using, it's HIS responsibility to protect HIMSELF from disease and pregnancy. Unless a man is trying to get pregnant or trying to contact a disease, he should be using a condom every time he has sex.

Women, it's the same thing. If you contract a disease or become pregnant, it's through lack of due diligence and responsibility. You should protect yourself with a condom and one other form of birth control. The pill has a 98% effective rate and combined with proper use of a condom, the success rate is even higher. Don't ***** to me about how inconvenient it is; pregnancy and disease are a hell of a lot more inconvenient.

So, in a word, it is not your responsibility to tell your male friend what your friend has. Your girl friend's behavior is not your responsibility either. It's too late to do anything anyway and you'll just end up looking jealous, however good your intentions. It is HIS responsibility to keep himself from becoming a father, herpetic or worse, HIV infected.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

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Answer 4

Well if nothing else we know how she contracted herpes, she is a "tramp", and should we mention that she is lucky it is just "herpes". You did promise not to divulge the information you have, but you know what, you don't have to say anything, IT WILL COME BACK TO BITE HER AGAIN. You might want to dis-associate yourself with this individual because you don't want to be around when it hits the fan.

Answer 5

First and foremost

YOU CAN CONTACT HERPES WITHOUT LESIONS, THE VIRUS IS IN THE BLOOD!!! ALWAYS USE PROTECTION!!!

Your friend is very manipulative. And in the end whoever finds out that she was keeping this secret "knowing" will not only be angry at her, but also at you. Consider this, if one of your friends decided to press charges against your friend she could take you down to as an accomplice.

I consider trying to convince your friend to be honest with whomever she has come in contact with and if she doesn't threaten to inform whomever, yourself. If she still refuses this may have to be taken further.

Consider all the people she is hurting and could have hurt already.

Answer 6

Tell them---why would you promise not to tell---herpes---spread that around ---if these people are FRIENDS, they need to know for their future---and tell this girl good bye---get somone else to be a friend. She didn't just get it this past summer---she just had that story---God, get a grip and read a book about these types of problems--real friends don't keep a disease a secret. She is a one woman wrecking crew--NOT a friend---go wash your hands of her now--then tell your friends to get tested---where is your head that you could do such a thing.

Answer 7

Herpes isn't curable so yes, you should tell. Since she has it she has a responsibility to tell the guys and to use protection, especially when she knows its just a casual hookup. You can protect her feelings, or protect a bunch of other people instead, and I think its more beneficial to help as many as you can. If she gets mad at you for it, explain your reasoning, tell her she should use condoms always, and hope for the best.

Answer 8

1. you don't always catch herpes from someone who has herpes, most of the time their need to be active lesions around the area to become infected
2.condoms don't protect againest herpes as it's skin to skin contact, not body fluid.
3. don't be petty and tell people, you wouldn't like it if it was done to you, but as for her hitting on boys who you like, maybe shes insecure and craves attention, or she's not a friend and is an egomaniac and you should ditch her.

either way, i don't think you should tell people about her herpes because then your friend who slept with her will be assumed to have them too, then anyone he slept with and so on and so forth.......

Answer 9

Its only gonna effect him if she was in a break out! Herpes are very common(No I dont have them) but if she is taking the right drugs(while not on an outbreak) they will probably be fine.. But, if she is a really heartless *****(like you make her sound) and she spread that stuff to people I knew.......Atleast beat her up!!! And let her know that you will kick her *** if she screws!!!!! Let her know if she spreads it........She will go to jail!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

they have a right to be informed and could have a possible law suit against her for giving them herpies and knowing that she could be infecting them. Also, DO NOT mess around with any of the guys she is around that she knows you like without first knowing for a fact that she hasn't had a chance to infect them. It sounds like she is trying to get you infected. You might want to confront her on this.