What is considered too much of an age difference?

Question

Everyone have a mouth opened when i tell them i am 23 years old and my fiance is 32. I see it only as 9 year difference, plus why should there be a problem is he look very young.
My boss who I talk to a lot and been married have a funny opinion on this. I always listen to him because he did have more experience in this stuff considering the fact that he is divorced now and dating again. He says if I was 33 and he was 42 the gap would of been really small, even if its 9 year difference, but since i am in my early 20ties i still have to be out there and see more before i engage in something so serious.
Now mind you I grew up early, I partied my *** off when I lived in Germany since i was 16 and now i am ready to settle down. Why it is so hard to beleive that at 23 i can be mature and ready for an older man that loves me as much as i love him and just are so compatible? He is not pushing me into having kids and giving up on school and other personal career plans, why would i worry then?

Answer 1

9 years difference is an ideal...u dont have to worry if u both have a compatibility...
in some societies same age groups have the problems...as men mature later then wamen
all depends person to person....age doesnt matter
most of the girls like older men..as being mature
its better for girls to be married with older guy as wamen grow old physically earlier then men

Answer 2

If the 2 of you get along well and share common goals and values then I don't think it's a problem at all. The age difference is too big when the 2 people have to struggle to find common ground in the basic things like music, movies, entertainment, etc. You and your boyfriend just take your time and really get to know each other before you get more serious. Talk about everything. Good luck.

Answer 3

According to playboy magazine several years ago, the best age difference between husband and wife is 9 years. I will not go into details but ironically the age difference between my wife and me is 9 years, not basing on their reasoning but luckily;; and we are married 22 years, 2 daughters, 2 sons and life seems as if we are just married all the time. This reply is only as is the question of age difference.
As far as his previous marriage, that this part of the question is beyond me as I am married only once; start to finish.

Answer 4

Age doesn't matter when love is involved. My guess is that being in your 20's is considered young and when women are really "available". It's good that you have found someone to share your life and that you are ready to settle down, some people may never reach that point. No matter how old they get.

Answer 5

the classic answer is the 0.5 plus 7 rule (if anybody is criminal). Your minimum should be 0.5 your age plus seven years. Your optimal should be your age minus seven, and all of that situations 2. i'm 19, so my optimal should be 24. My minimum should be the minimum criminal age. That rule dictates that a twenty-12 months distinction should be ok if between both is a minimum of fifty 4. 0.5 plus seven of fifty 4 is 34. yet, all in all, you should probable in simple terms use your judgment.

Answer 6

My husband is 8 year older than me. If you both connect mentally, then go for it. All that matters is your compatibility and of course, your happiness.

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with a 9-year gap. Go to hell with those who frowned at that.

Answer 8

9 years is fine! a problem arises when the other person could literally be your father or mother!

Answer 9

not too bad, depending on maturity of both persons. don't worry about other people. you are marrying him, not anyone else.

Answer 10

I don´t see any problem here, go for it, and don´t listen to these people, you sound very mature...