How would you perceive or take it as,and if you knew she was sincerely being honest with herself and you
2007-01-13 21:06:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
If I were telling my man!!!:)
2007-01-13 21:14:45 · update #1
first, it will show her insecurity, which in appropriate amount is a cute thing, and i will reassure her that it's ok and that she IS good enough.
yet if she's persistent i might get a little suspicious ( ? attempt to break up?) or if not then it could get a bit annoying if she doesn't get over it.
but dont worry, no guy with a minimum amount of decency would take advantage of that, if that's what's worrying u,
2007-01-13 21:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by Hany S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wife or girlfriend? As an old, married guy (20 years) I would suspect that I had done something to cause her to question herself; have I been inattentive? Distant? A jerk? Have I developd a wandering eye? Perhaps you should ask whether your man is deserving of you? Why should you feel inferior? Does he possess a higher social status than you? Does he come from a monied family? Grew up in an afluent home, Ozzie & Harriett type parents, good schools, good neighborhood, and you represent the other side of that? You come from a more humble upbringing? Then the big question would be "so what?" YOU deserve a man who will love you, cherish you, be loyal and faithful to you. Social status and economics are not relevant factors, and PLEASE, PLEASE understand that your physical appearance is not relevant; WHO you are is really the issue. If you don't feel "pretty enough, thin enough, etc" you are just cheating yourself out of happiness. Trust me sweetie, physical beauty fades entirely too fast; once age starts creeping up on you, your relationship better be built on something far more solid. Again, why should you feel inadequate? Be the best you can be, do the best you can do; if it's not good enough for him, kick him to the curb and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are.
2007-01-14 05:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by dyno_dawg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think the remark was rooted in an uncertainty. I would think she was afraid she might lose me because I would be looking for somebody better.
If neither of these were actually the case, I would reassure her that I love her and that she was mine to keep.
Low self esteem can be difficult to tackle, and it is often not enough to tell a person that she is really alright. But I have a dominant personality, so I might also tell her that I actually appreciate a woman who does not compete with me for the first place in the relationship. I would try to turn her sense of inferiority into something positive - an asset that she could be proud of and one that I appreciate.
2007-01-14 06:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by egghead68dk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how it was said. It could be misunderstood as the woman wanting out of the relationship. You have to be careful how it is expressed.
If I understood that she truly felt that way, and wasn't just trying to get out of the relationship, then I would encourage her with the reasons I was dating her, in love with her, or whatever I was feeling (i.e., depending on how long we'd be dating, etc.).
I'd have to know more about the situation though. If this was a woman who had a history of low self esteem, or something like that, it would play into it.
On the other hand, I would also need to take a look at my actions, and ask myself if I had been acting in a way that would cause her to feel like she wasn't good enough. It's a two way street.
2007-01-14 05:16:07 · answer #4 · answered by generalchris7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not feel bad. Rather would take her gently into my arms give her a kiss and then ask her to explain to me what is it that she feels bad about me. And sincerely I will improve that and try to come upto her expectations. Definitely after some times she will say I am the best person in the World for her.
2007-01-14 05:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by Spider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be disappointed and sad and take it as a bad sign Because that's what women can say before they break up , and they probably have another guy they are thinking about going with, someone who they do feel good enough to be with.
2007-01-14 05:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by Sporadic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say it was about time she realised i was a better person than her and that she should show me how much she appreciates the fact that i spend time with her when everyone ridicules me for being with someone so unworthy of my affections.... then she would do as i wish for a long time : )
2007-01-14 05:15:42 · answer #7 · answered by dunnomuch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how thats stupid and how you couldnt imagine yourself with anyone else.You know,shower them with love :D . Let them know there the best and make them feel it.
2007-01-14 05:11:39 · answer #8 · answered by teenidol_12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she ?
Tell her , often - everyday
turn it around on her and tell her that you don't think that you are good enough for her
2007-01-14 05:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by jayvader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No baby of course your good enuf, though your lasagna could be.... no dont cry, i didnt mean that, ur lasagna is just fine. its just sometimes you..... no honey, i didnt mean it that way.
2007-01-14 05:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by Z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋