my family just recently moved. we lived in palm harbor, fl and we just moved to seattle, wa. (i'm a high schooler) and there my friend meant the world to me, the kept me on my feet we watched out for each other. we were there for almost 7 years and i have never fit in anyplace better. and now being in seattle changes everything, up here i have no friends, no one to trust, i'm all alone. and my mum and dad don't understand what it's like. i got to school feeling like an outcast, people look at me with distaste because i'm a floridian brit, and they don;t even give me a chance. i'm a nice person and easy to get along with. i have been here for almost 4 months and i have changed dramatically, i feel depressed and every time my parents, brother or like aunts, uncles, cousins try to talk to me i snap and i like turn into a cornered wild animal, and i know i'm not like that. i feel like my heart has been ripped to shreds. i like never talk anymore and i don't know what to do. please help.
2007-01-13 20:56:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
friends...not just one friend...sry bout that.
2007-01-13 21:50:29 · update #1
I was kind of a loaner myself for most of high school. Some people can be a bit stuck-up. But overall I think the most important thing to do is to open up a bit and say hi to someone and introduce yourself. It will feel VERY awkward, but you will be happy when your the first one to break the ice. Think about it this way, you've got nothing to lose. Try to find a clique that you think you have a lot in common with. It's been about three years now since I've graduated high school, looking back I do wish that I talked to more people and was less shy.
Talk to your parents. Explain to them about how you feel and I'm sure they will understand. Remember to that it is crucial to keep in touch with your best friend. Maybe you can tell him/her about everything your going through.
Keep your chin up, be more outgoing and things will be a lot better.
2007-01-13 21:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not many people like change unfortunitley is a fact of life everything changes..even feeling like an outcast in seattle, you neeed to take a more positive approach to school and be open to new friends, I'm sure there are many students that would love to have you for a friend. you said it yourself that your easy to get along with and a nice person (hell I'll be your friend) You still have access to your friend in florida, so keep in touch plus you have a lot of family memebers there, thats a great benefit i'm sure you can trust and confide in them, this is a good time to strengthen your relationship with them, maybe plan some outtings to see all that seattle has to offer (be creative). If you still continue to feel depressed then you should look into the possiblity of moving back to florida and moving in with your best friend and there parents or maybe a relative that might live in the area.
2007-01-13 21:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by quietstorm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl you aren't going through anything a lot of other teenagers have not or will not go through. You are right to be on Yahoo Answers, someone will give you the inspiration you need to get through this. Just know that you are not along, this too shall pass and in a couple of months you will look back and wonder how you got over. Don't be so dark, so serious, if you act like this now what will you do when you are older. Let up, let your best friend be you, you are crying out for something, your stability has been interrupted, your life has been interrupted, let it be just that an interruption. God Bless.
2007-01-13 22:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive me but the spoiled brat thing is getting stale--you are a manipulator and that's it. Walk tall, be nice, smile and say hello---being from Florida has nothing to do with it. if you don't open up to new people, you will be considered a bit odd---get out and talk and smile and meet people---it's an age old thing to move and have to make new frieneds--millions do it---Talk and talk often--join a couple of clubs---just do it and suck it all up. Forget the attention grabbing depression thing--your friends are going to get tired of listening to a whiney baby---grow up and get moving. People in Seattle don't bite--they speak English--start talking. Always be yourself---and stay away from trouble.
2007-01-13 21:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky you, you have your parents with you. I am an exchange student, have been for four years now. When I first came to meet my sponsor family, I knew nothing about them, vice versa. I was depressed, and homesick. First week was terrible, I felt out of place and strange. I kept to myself half the time. But as time proceed by, I knew I couldn't stay that way, so I got myself involved in activites in the community and in school. I got to meet more people, meet new friends, though I still keep up with my old, and it's been fun. Just let loose. Go to a concert, meet new people. Get involve in activities in school and out of school, it would certainly help, sure helped me.
2007-01-13 21:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by tu amor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's rough, but you gotta be able to open your mouth and say "hi" to the strangers at your school. Maybe during lunch, go up to a clique and go "can I sit here?"
I know, I know. Talking to people you don't know requires enormous pliers to peel your lips apart from each other. Speaking from experience (I moved from orlando out to cali when i hit high school), it gets easier each and every time.
I was in a nice and comfy situation too, having lived in the same place for 14 years of my life. I basically knew everyone, and coming out west was a complete trip for me.
So chin up, it can only get better! cuz you're definitely on rock bottom right now :P
2007-01-13 21:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by John C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ,you doing well so far you are reaching out and asking for help,no one can tell you that they know how you feel.but we can share simular experiences.we also recently moved to another country.when we first got here i was excited i couldnt wait to get here.now i realise that we dont know anyone here apart from the few family members here.like you ive left my best friends behind.i feel like a outsider.everyone tells me it,ll be okay......well guess what we have been here for 6months now, i still miss my friends at home.and i still havent made any new friends here but im slowly getting use to it here i still dont like it here but just talking to you makes me feel better knowing that im not the only one that feels like this.i write and ring my friends back home when i can.you should too.dont be depressed .you should start reading and answering questions more often youll be supprised how you can make a difference to other people such as you and me..cheer up
2007-01-13 21:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by joejoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i wouuld first get a diary to talk to then i would find a pen pal that you can relate to and if your on the internet enough try and find your old friend on the net and talk to him/her about how you feel and then talk to your parents about going back to florida for a visit. If you are depressed go and see a doctor before its too late.
Good Luck!!!
I hope everything works out and hey if ya want to you can email me and we can chat and be friends ok.
2007-01-13 21:03:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋