Should a husband be able to talk to his ex girlfriends?

Question

And by that same token, should a wife be able to keep up with all her ex lovers?

In all honesty I never gave it a second thought until one showed up to visit with her significant other. She strutted around the house wearing a shirt and thongs and I was tongue tied.

Answer 1

No way. It does nothing but undermine the relationship with your spouse.

But then I subscribe to the old fashion belief that excluding relatives, people that are married should not be close to any members of the opposite sex.

Answer 2

It depends. Some exes remain friends despite what happened in their relationship. If they are just friends then it should be easy to keep an open honest relationship. If they are being secretive about it, then it could be something else. I just think it's bad behavior when someone is still talking to an ex, except when there are children or finances involved. There your ex for a reason, move on..

Answer 3

No,. It's not a good idea, because it can cause fights, and it can also make the person you're with feel really insecure. The past is the past. I've been known to talk to Ex-boyfriends and it caused problems, and now I'm engaged, sooo....I keep those people at a friendly distance. It's just not a good Idea anymore since I'm getting married and I love the person I'm with. Good luck :)

Answer 4

My husband talks to his ex wife all the time. They have to talk about the kids and so on. We also go out as a foursom with his ex and her new man. I still talk to my ex about our daughter, but also on a social level. If we're out in the same place we still dance together (not smooch stuff) cos my husband doesnt like to dance, and I dont like to dance alone. I have an ex boyfriend I write to and keep in touch with. Its down to trust. We both know neither of us would cheat, or even behave inappropriately with anyone else. Mind you, when i was younger I would have hated any boyfriend even talking to another girl. I guess its old age that brings maturity lol.

Answer 5

Yes, just because they are your girlfriend/boyfriend does not mean that they don't have the right to talk or be friends with whoever they want. By the same token, if they hide it or only talk to them when you are not around then it's can't mean good things for your relationship.

Answer 6

i do not think if your married, that this is really appropriate, don't think it does your relationship any good, actually i feel it could harm it. no one wants someones ex around even if it's just for a cordial visit. leave the past in the past, don't let it become the present. husbands should leave their ex's once they marry, and focus only on their wives, just causes hurt feelings when an ex is around, no matter how innocent it appears to be.

Answer 7

Sure as long as it is only talking on both sides and not sex.

The exes are a part of the husband's/wife's past.

Forgiving someone for their past mistakes makes you a stronger person.

Answer 8

Sure if they want to argue all the time and end up divorced. There is no room for jealousy in a relationship but I feel that this is crossing the line. If you're so interested in what they are doing then you should have stayed with him/her.

Answer 9

It's nothing wrong if you hang around your ex as friends,that's better than becoming enemies. As long as you are still loyal to your wife/husband talking with anyone doesn't cause harm.

Answer 10

If it's done in an open and secure way, then that would be really healthy for the strength of the relationship.