Weight and attractiveness..?

Question

I guess this is a general question to find our answers.com public opinion. I'm not shy.. I'm 285, and 5'11". Do you girls out there find that seriously unattractive? Can you notice someone and be attracted enough to find out more about them if they're that body type? I carry my weight well, but I have a hard time finding dates and interested women. The health industry would have me believing that I'm undateable, and just plain ugly. Don't think so. I'm happy with myself and comfortable. I DO walk every day (my dog wouldn't have it any other way) and I eat very little. My body just stores more than it burns. So, would you talk to a heavy guy? Are you more into the look or personality? I know this is a toughie to answer, but I'm really curious. I've met some real shallow people.. I guess I'm just hoping to find the truth.. Can heavy guys be truly lovable if the personality is good or do we all have to have washboard abs and smooth hairless skin to have a chance in hell with nice girls?

Answer 1

Personally, and I am thin and not ugly, (pretty cute actually) but I like, no love, a guy with something to hang on to...skinny guys really creep me, so hey babe, for this chick here, keep it on, sounds warm and cuddley to me!!!

Answer 2

I like men that are like teddybears, that are cute and lovable, and bigger than me :) I'm a nice girl, so I think that yes nice girls could very much like you, HOWEVER if you are searching for a hot model girl then, yes it is possible.... not probable.....but anything is possible.
The thing I have recently relized is that sometimes we don't (at least I wasn't) give others a chance because we make judgements on them based on their apperance and on what the media portrays as beautiful or sexy these days.
But I've pretty much figured out that those things ARE NOT what is important in the long run. I think if you have a good personality and are friendly then you have a HUGE chance of mature women liking you. I'm not sure how old you are, but I am in my early 20's and i have just discovered what I said b4 about looks not being even close to that important in "real" relationships, and I think there are alot of girls that realize this even later than me. Just start dating older women, and surround yourself with nice/good people, that's what is important. Also don't get down on yourself, because your self esteem can show in your face and posture (even with out your recognizing it) and that can be much more of a turn off. Even the hottest guy who walks with his head down can turn into a 6, where as a man that might otherwise be a 6 can turn into a 10 with some confidence. :)

Answer 3

Absolutely! I am the type of person that doesn't judge a person by their appearance. Some of the nicest people I know are overweight and that to me just means more of them to love. Physical attraction is very important but the key element in any relationship is personality. My father suffers from the same problem you do and he has a heart of gold. He has tried so many diets without much success. What makes it so hard for him is his job requires him to drive a lot (he is a District Manager of 10 quarries). When he comes home, he is just too tired to exercise. I can understand your frustration through him. There are lots of people out there with the same problem. Sadly, we live in such a mean world where people only want relationships based on money and sex. Both seem to be the root of all evil. I'm sure you are a great person with lots to offer. You just have to keep your confidence level up and remind yourself that you are going to be some lucky woman's treasure someday. Have you considered a dating program? There may be women who have the same problem as you. Consider it because you sound like a very nice person. Indeed I'm married, but I know I and lots of other women are attracted to the "Teddy Bear" type of men. Keep your chin up and have confidence in who you are....that's all that matters!

Answer 4

I do not feel like I am a shallow person. But, being human I do find a person who is overweight unattractive but ONLY if they dress like a slob! A person can be overweight and dress in a way that is flattering. They don't have to look sloppy. On the flip side... I do not care for a man that is a bean pole either! I want a man who can protect me and wrap me in his arms. I'll take a man who is overweight and confident over a skinny scrawny man anyday!

Answer 5

Everyone will have a different opinion on this. It's just the same as if you were to ask men if heavy women bother them. I personally do not find heavier men unattractive. It is what's inside. I guess this is something you learn the older you get. Never judge a book by it's cover.

Answer 6

This is going to sound very cliché, but personality and sense of humor really DO affect how attractive a person is.

I'm with a guy right now who doesn't actually fit the accepted ideal of attractive, but he's so smart, funny, and easy to talk to that it really doesn't matter.

Oh, and personally, I find "smooth hairless skin" on a grown man to be a bit creepy.

Answer 7

I saw this guy the other day, and he was huge! But he carried himself so well! He seemed the most striking personality ever, and me had this 'I don't give a **** what you think' attitude. Well.. it's been 3 yrs since I met the guy, and we're engaged to be married soon! Ofcourse, he had to lose some weight because of health reasons, but I stuck by him, and always will. I love him for what he is inside!!

So don worry about your size, it's how you carry it about that really matters!

Answer 8

Pulling removed from her emotionally, not having intercourse, feeling uncomfortable with cuddling and such. All of those issues mixed will do greater injury than would desire to be achieved by spelling it out for her and her taking it undesirable. The chilly stressful actuality is which you're interested in a undeniable physique type and much less interested in a various type. that's okay to experience that way. that's organic, and you will desire to settle for that approximately your self. even although, her weight and length possibly have a significant result on her self esteem. merely think she gained the load and appeared appropriate on your eyes yet felt like she exchange into fat and unsightly. She would shy away emotionally and ward off intercourse. Then what? here is the deal. you have greater administration over your self and what you do particularly than her, how she feels, and what she does. that's going to be plenty greater ordinary which you will exchange your self particularly than attempt to alter her. that doesn't recommend you will desire to give up liking what you like although. with a bit of luck you 2 can meet interior the middle. tell her which you're happy along with her for succeeding interior the load-loss and that her accomplishment is an theory to you. clarify to her that even although she enjoys her weight-loss, you form of omit the curves that her physique used to have. enable her be responsive to that she does not would desire to stay skinny to electrify you. tell her appropriate out which you would be better than happy and extremely grew to become on if she placed on yet another 10 kilos or so.

Answer 9

Well, before even having seen you, you are definitely the kind of guy I would go for (although I'm married lol). Why? Because you have all the inner qualities I value in a person. Just from your post, I can tell you are a deep, geninue, caring, friendly and warm person. To me, that is beautiful and I wouldn't even notice your weight. HTH : )

Answer 10

I have a very attractive daughter that I would like you to meet. She is funny and loves guys that have a sense of humor. She is a straight A student but loves to go out and have fun. She is 5'7" and weighs around 140 pounds with long blonde hair. She complains all the time that the guys she meets are too shallow and too into themselves. You seem like an excellent canidate to date her.

Answer 11

ignore the media at large... but let me tell you *fat chicks* (men) are sexy. That has always been my motto. I do not mean that in any other way that respectful.

A thin man has never been able to turn my eye... as long as you are healthy, have a great personality, and some great conversation and experiences to share with someone... you should not have any difficulty.

Ignore magazines, bad comedies, TV and want to be socialites... the average American Woman loves her average American Man... especially those great bear hugs.