this is terrible?

Question

i dont know y but i am very bad at speaking my mind
i have to tell my friends how i feel abt her frnd
i am afraid to tell her bcoz it might destroy our frndship
i thought that i couldnt tell it to her face so called her
tell i heard her voice i was confident that i was going to tell her
but when she started talking it was totally different
i changed the topic
i need to tell her
but how

Answer 1

maybe you could try a semi-indirect approach to the matter. when you're on the phone, try bringing up the topic of her friend. ask your friend what she thinks about that friend of hers. try to drop a few hints about how you feel. don't be too frank. try to "break it to her gently" - meaning, be considerate. put yourself in your friend's shoes: how would you want your friend to tell you how s/he feels about your other friend. try to keep it light. at the same time, try to understand why your friend considers that other person his/her friend. maybe there's something you missed.

try to have more confidence when your with your friends. after all, in ideal and true friendships, you respect each other. you got to trust that your friend is willing to listen in the same way you should be prepared to listen to your friend.

Answer 2

You sound like me. But what you have to ask yourself is what is your point. Is it your point to get your view across or is it to help. Most of the time I think we get caught up in getting our opinion across on how we would deal with the situation. Instead what we should be doing is listening and giving advice when asked and not shoving the advice down their throats even though we know we are right. Sometimes it gets to be about showing we are right not helping and listenin.

Answer 3

If you believe that your friend will be better off knowing, then you must find a way. Perhaps seeing her in person in a safe environment is better than over the phone. You can explain yourself and offer support. Good luck.

Answer 4

But How (1/07)

Bad at speaking,
have to tell,
friendship destroyed,
simplicity failed.

Tried to speak,
yet she spoke louder,
suffered my words,
into void's hell.

Change of topic,
totally different,
decipher the meaning,
of our frienship.

I need to tell her.

I changed the topic.

I need to tell her...

(that simplicity failed)

Answer 5

my roommate is BRUTALY honest and from what i've learned from it......sometimes if the thing you need to tell someone IS goign to hurt then and isn't worth hurting them for then just keep it inside. if you basicly wanna spout off your OPIONS about her friend to her....keep it in i HATE when my friends bad talk each other, it makes me feel like they aren't stopping to think about my feelings or stop to CARE that i still am friends with the other person.....now if this girls "friend" is going arounding giving your friend a bad name behind her back then maybe lightly bring it up in a conversation.

Answer 6

text message, IM, you really didnt state the nature of the topic so i dont know how serious it is that you need to tell your friend, if its that important, then tell your friend, she would thank you in the long run. If not, then is she really a friend that you need?

Answer 7

when you ring up make sure shes in a happy mood then just tell her and is shes a true friend then she should find a way to fix the problem

Answer 8

why don't you write it out, that way you can take your time and be honest and give it to her, saying that you have something you want to tell her, but it was too hard for you to voice it.

Answer 9

You dont have to tell her,, if your intuition is right, then she will figure it out on her own,, But if she ever asks you ,, you should tell the truth.

Answer 10

you do not have to tell her what do you feel about her friend
as you are not obliged to see her and you can tell he that she is nice but you could not cope with her
i do not think she will be angry with you