I am sixteen years old, and I have never had a very good relationship with my parents. My parents always fight, and the only reason they don't get a divorce is because they don't want my sisters and me to go through that situation. Because of the constant fighting we had overheard from our parents, we have grown up yelling as well. My sisters have both moved out, and I'm alone with my parents. I get into daily fights with my mom especially. We have at least one major one once a week. She tells me that I'm not responsible, I'm a slacker, etc. If I defend myself at all, she threatens to sell, or kill my pets. This has become a major problem lately. Most of the harm she causes me is emotional, but she has also thrown ceramic pots at me, left me on busy streets and in theme parks, and a few other things. I am scared of her, and I find myself in the closet crying more than usual in the past. Is this child abuse? If so, what should I do about it?
2007-01-13
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try to meet your sisters....talk to your mom when she is in a good mood.....may god bless you..
2007-01-13 20:16:16
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answered by elvisjohn 7
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talk to a councelor at school about it. it sounds abusive, and someone need to intervene. your parents should divorce, i had the same kind of childhood and thought i couldn't do anything about it, and back then i couldn't. today you have choices, as long as you do it the right way (don't run away). remember that if chid services takes you out of the home, it could be worse, so maybe talking with your mom about it when there is no fighting going on will help. if she turns it around and starts yelling, then go to the councelor or look to see if there is a hotline you can call in your community for family intervention. good luck
2007-01-13 20:17:06
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answered by mamahobbit 2
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Oh honey, I'm sorry to hear of your troubles. I know how hard it can be to have parents that fight. My dad used to be terrible to us all. I think if your parents are staying together just for the sake of not getting a divorce, then they are doing more harm than good if all they do is fight. It is better to have parents that get along that don't live together than it is to have parents that fight constantly and are under the same roof. My heart so goes out to you. If you feel that you are in danger in any way or just need someone to talk to to help you feel better, then what you need to do is talk to someone. I always found that my school guidence counselor was a good person to talk to. They keep it confidential, and can give you a better idea of what to do/where to go for help. It can be embarrasing to talk to your friends sometimes about family problems, so start with your school office if your friends aren't an option. Also, if you go to church, you can talk to your pastor or priest about your problems. What about your sisters? You said they moved out, but are you close enough to them to talk to them about this? They should be able to give you some emotional support at least, after all that is what family is for, and noone knows your parents better than you and your siblings.
I think most importantly until you can figure out what to do is to keep yourself safe. Try to avoid any situation where you think you will be put in harms way. Easier said than done, I know. Try not to take it all to heart. I think your parents probably have a lot going on inside their heads and for whatever reason are taking it out on you. They may be sick and need help. But first and foremost, I would talk to your counselor at school. They can probably get the ball rolling if you want, so your family can all get into some type of therapy to resolve a lot of these issues. Also, if you can find a time when your mom isn't upset or mad, just ask her if you can sit and have a heart to heart with her. Try to approach the subject in a calm manner. Just tell her that you Love her and how it makes you feel when she puts you down, or deliberately makes you feel bad.
Please, make sure the cycle of violence stops here. Try to remember in the future, when you date someone or get married and if you decide to have children. Especially if you have kids. The last thing you want is for them to be afraid of you like you are of your parents.
I guess go by your gut instinct, if you feel deep down inside that you aren't being treated properly, then you probably aren't. Just remember that just because you Love someone doesn't EVER give them the right to hurt you.
2007-01-13 20:41:11
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answered by Rachel T 3
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Pick up the phone dial 911. If you're not on drugs, stay off drugs and alcohol. Build safer relationships by joining a school club. Your story resembles mine. I'm graduating this semester, and I'm still distracted by some of the problems at home. I started using back in the day, but things got worse. I've been working at the community college, thanks to the highschool's ROP program. Good luck!
2007-01-17 13:53:36
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answered by Anonymous
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this is child abuse...
is there anyway you can move in with your sisters?
maybe you shouldn't have pets if she's only blackmailing you about them?
Remeber, you only have 2 years left, then u can move out. Are you preparing for that by getting an education?
2007-01-13 20:05:57
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answered by thank you come again 2
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I think that it is child abuse and you should get in touch with anyone who can help you. in till they r there stay with a relative near bye or even better far away no one sh old be scared of there parents. and one thing I grantee will work is if you pray.
2007-01-13 20:16:30
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answered by leighroxx25 2
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Seems a bit abusive, yes...
2007-01-13 20:06:44
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answered by Anonymous
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2007-01-13 20:06:22
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answered by mr johnson 1
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