We were having a nice dinner with some relatives, and my one cousin told us of a place where my wife and I would like. My wife turned to me and said "yeah on sundays we should do nice things like that". Now I said "you know sundays I watch football, so let's do it on a saturday". I then said, "don't pretend you don't know I watch football on Sundays".
What pissed me off is that she knows damn well I won't give up football on sundays for nothing !
Good lord, it's only a few months for crying out loud. Ladies, I will never give up football on Sundays, EVER !
PLEASE DON'T SAY IM WRONG. I AM NOT CHANGING, THIS IS WHAT MAKES ME WHO I AM, PERIOD. AND WOMEN WHO FORCE THEIR MAN TO CHANGE, WIND UP SINGLE, TRUST ME.
2007-01-13 19:40:16 · 34 answers · asked by godzillasagoodman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
watch your football . let your cousin take her on Saturday evening spend the night and all day Sunday . she will come home with a glow on her face and i hope your team will win
2007-01-14 05:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by jerry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Godzilla, There goes Tokyo !
Dude I hear you, I know what you are saying, BUT, you got to listen with your ears, then process WHAT you hear.
Her; "Yeah, on Sundays (jab)We should do nice things like that"
Ignore the jab cause your being set up to look lik a turd. Be Cool... Think FIRST.
(how many Sundays in a year? Think 52 - 20= 32 other Sundays)
You say; " Hey baby, I would like that too, in fact I have a few ideas"
( Wife and the guests are all ears)
Make her ask! Don't say anything you must wait for her to ask, cause her plan back fired. Before she asks-------Turn to the male guest and tell him the show you just saw on Speed Chanel.
Whether she asks at the table or private, you say its surprise and the TICKETS are in the mail. That's all you say.
Godzilla saved Tokyo!
Then plan something soon and do it on a SAT.or whatever day that works for you, then she can brag to her family and girlfriend, and all is good.
Never is a long time so Make time for both of you and she'll give you Sundays. Money works too. How long you been married?
Do what a man has got to do. But she will definitely lose respect for you for whining, or if you ignoring her, she will make plans without you and all you will have is football. Unless that IS what you want.
2007-01-13 20:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by cadet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you haven't been married very long. Your wife wants to know she's more important to you than football...and it sounds like she's not. She's probably picturing having your first child without you at her side, because you'd be home watching a game, or being stranded on the side of the road with car trouble and having to wait hours until your game was over and you could come and get her. You need to let her know that she matters too. You could figure out which game doesn't matter so much to you and take her to a movie during it, or explain to her that football really helps you relax because it reminds you of your ball-playing days in school, and that you'll take her away for a weekend as soon as football season's over.
You do need to apologize to her. You embarassed her in front of your relatives. The right way to handle a situation like that is to say, "Sure, we'll talk about it later." Then as soon as you get in the car you can start whining about how Sundays are your football days.
Be nice to your wife...or she'll find herself a guy who doesn't think the world revolves around football to keep her company on Sundays while you're parked on the couch watching your games.
2007-01-13 20:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by Judi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know? All that you had to do was say yes honey that does sound interesting and then move on to a different subject. And then when the two of you went home you guys could have discuss the matter in private instead of throwing a tantrum, and embarrassing her and also letting everyone else see just what a disrespecting asshole you truly are!
You can still watch your stupid football and also take her out on Sundays as well. You should remember that a marriage is suppose to be equal, not one sided.
Don't Be Selfish!
2007-01-17 09:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was married and very much in love, I would spend lovely Sundays going to the beach with my wife, take in seaside cafes and enjoy the free time that we had. At home, my football games were being taped on my two VCRs exactly for that purpose. I even did that on Super Bowl Sunday. Of course, I chose this. I love football, but it did not define me. I was more defined by the kind of person I am. I did the same because I like college football as well which is on Saturday. I must assume that you have divorced your wife.
2007-01-13 19:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying "if I didn't watch football, who would I be?" Anyway, besides the fact that macho sports men are a huge turn off for me, it didn't actually sound like your wife was trying to change you or make you give up football. She just wants to spend some time with you. She probably wouldn't even mind if you watched football every Sunday as long as you're paying attention to her the rest of the week. The problem is that you probably don't pay her enough attention. Make Saturday the day for you to do things together and don't act so defensive. It's rude to your wife.
2007-01-13 19:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
well...I'm a married women (and I HATE football)....and I think that your wife should be more understanding.
As you said, it's only a couple months of the year, you offered to do it on Saturdays so if it was time with you she was wanting, you are still offering it to her. I'm sure she has things she does that don't interest you but you don't try to make her give it up.
HOWEVER, It doesn't sound like she was trying to change you in any way, maybe she "forgot" about football. What did she say when you asked her to do it Saturdays instead?
We are only hearing one side of the story here so it is very hard to respond.
I understand both sides here...I hope everything worked out for you.
2007-01-14 06:10:20 · answer #7 · answered by Newmomofone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok, just for a second immagine you and I are married. You hear about something fun but the only day you can do it is on wednesdays. You mention in front of family " hey, lets do this thing on wednesday". and I say to you "I have a yoga class on wednesday! You know I have yoga on wednesday! I have yoga every wednesday! I WILL NOT change my yoga class!" how would that make you feel? Yes, I could take a later class, I could hear second hand what happened at the class I missed to spend time with you. I could skip the class all together to do something special with you. But I refuse. Am I in the wrong? You wife just wants to spend time with you. Maybe you should make sunday football something you can both enjoy, maybe by compromising and renting a movie she chooses to watch and watching it together after the game. Or maybe you should sit down with your wife and discuss with her why football is so important to you and schedualing time to do something with her that she chooses to do.
2007-01-13 19:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Millions of guys go through this--believe me...I would never have dignified that with an answer if front of outsiders---I would have said that we will discuss it later--then do it. Women see what mendo as crazy or stupid or whatever---when the season is over--take her someplace nice--FAST---do it regardless of anything---Watch the game as you would, but then make an effort to do something with and for her. Send flowers on Monday---just say that in a couple of weeks the Sundays are ours--or say something nice---don't be crude or be not understanding----at least give it a shot. Communication is everything---always be careful of what you say and how you say it---you see how it turned out when she didn't follow this rule----good luck and do the right thing.
2007-01-13 19:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men who refuse to listen to their woman clearly wanting to spend quality time with them, wind up single. Trust me.
So lets see; between watching a bunch of smelly sweaty guys running around a field chasing after a ball, or going on a date with your woman. You would rather watch the guys.
How much sense does this make really?
I would suggest you two get marriage counseling before one of you can't stand the other's intolerant behavior and YOU end up single. Sounds like she's a caring partner who wants to be loved, and there are a lot of guys out there that can do that for her. I doubt she'll have trouble finding a new man.
2007-01-16 10:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by Tomis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋