She slapped me minorly more than just playing, I did not leave her alone because she just layed down and just wanted to talk. She wants to borrow my computer and some money. i do love her, is this using me or not? She was also real mad one day and tore a letter I gave her. She was sorry afterwards
thanks much any comments greatly appreciated
2007-01-13 19:25:19 · 51 answers · asked by boshie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she just would not talk so i kept trying to get her to talk and she got upset and slapped me
2007-01-13 19:27:19 · update #1
She says the computer is needed for her business, and i would be holding her back from success
2007-01-13 19:29:56 · update #2
Comments greatly appreciated
2007-01-13 19:35:42 · update #3
She was down about money and I would not leave her alone. What about just letting her use the computer.. She says I do not hardly use it. And i do not use it much. Thanks everyone so much for comments THE MORE THE BETTER THIS SITE IS AWESOME
2007-01-13 19:41:38 · update #4
THANKS EVRYONE
2007-01-13 19:43:37 · update #5
i think something is bothering her & she dont want to make you sad...
takecare of her & protect her!!!!
2007-01-13 19:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by M*K*H 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I was reading the other answers and I have to agree with Most, She has no right slapping you. Since when did you become her keeper? If you start allowing her to "Use" you this way, then the behavior will only get worse. Lay down the Law now. Letting someone borrow something for awhile is not a bad thing, if you are not using it, but I have a feeling, you will have a heck of a time getting it back. Try saying NO and see if it is you she cares about, or the "things" you have. If she acts like a brat, you are better off without her..
2007-01-21 10:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well if she didn't have an anger problem I would say you are being a bit selfish. If she only wanted to borrow a few hundred dollars and you have it, why not? The computer you don't use, why not? Unless you don't feel like you will be together much longer there is no reason to hold back. BUT, since she slapped you the only solution would be to dump her. That's too much drama, get out while you still can before she gets you into trouble.
2007-01-20 14:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by goturanswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you two need a serious break from each other! Someone who has only been in a relationship for a year and have the nerve to borrow money from her boyfriend instead of her family.She is not no dummy she is playing you big time! Basically she wants your computer but hon you never use it anymore it will help me out in my career, she is trying to milk you for all she can! They have rent to own stores! lol Who slaps someone in the face if they really love them? Someone who is childish has a violent back ground and just does not really care!!! The next time you might not be so luck to just get a slap! And make sure you leave when she acts up don't stay and baby her for her wrong doing or behavior! You done nothing wrong to stay! 1. it's your computer! 2. It's your money your not her parents or care giver! Do you have sucker on your forehead? If not you should get out before she milks you dry and the abuse could get worse and even make you hit her back out of anger or being hury by her actions! Get a new gf but don't rush in to it take your time! Walk away be the bigger person don't stay the next time let her think about her action of what she just did to you! If she can't or won't talk to her boyfriend of what she just did and why then she is not worth it and does not think to highly of her boyfriend!!! She may need help for her behavior!!!
2007-01-21 14:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by dctalk30s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were the other way around, the police would be all over you and have you arrested for domestic violence. I commend you for being a real man and not responding with the same. However, before things get uglier, I'd leave that idiot if I were you. She has no right to lay a single finger on you. How did it make you feel to get a slap in the face from her. Either she'll break your spirit or you'll eventually break down and really hurt her. Both scenarios are unacceptable. Find someone who will respect you. She is abusive and imature. Dump that skank!
2007-01-21 14:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by Flora 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well most of the time in life I have found that when u decide to lend people big things like your car, money, computer, etc... they are using you for the things you have. Most of the time you don't get any type of payback, but you do get your stuff used and money tends to fall along the way side. I would hold firm on not lending these things out. If she is that upset over it enough to slap you...then she can be shown the door.
2007-01-21 14:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Your girlfriend seems like she got upset over a small detail....and that you might not have reacted philosophically as it is indeed a small detail...(I suppose she is not asking for millions of dollars...)
Let her have what she wants as:
- you are not using this computer, you should make the best use of it...and apparently she is willing too !
- Let her have some money if it is a small amount (depending on the amount....as you do not specify..i can't really advise on this)
On the other hand, let her know that you will give her what she wants when this is for a good reason (she has a business !! she wants to work !! let her go for it !!).
She seems like being somewhat capricious though....so don't let her forget there is no reason to get upset too quickly and that this will not solve all problems....
Good luck!
2007-01-18 21:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by Arnaud M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi !!!
I believe that because she knows that you love her, she has being abusing you!!!
I'm sorry but this girl doesn't love you. This relationship, is already damage, if you stay with her,the only thing coming out of
it will be your computer, your money, and one of you going to jail!
She probably is very selfish, it is your computer, it is your money, and NO ONE should be telling you how to spend your money or use your computer!!!
Leave this girl, for all I know she probably could be playing you, and you are here al worried!!!
She just want her way or no way!!! Leave her before this gets worst!!!! Sorry but I don't think she feels anything for you at all!!!
She should not be counting with your things, ask her to get a job or if she already has one ask her to save for her own computer, you'll see how fast she will leave as soon as she sees you are NO longer her puppy!!!
And before her leaving you I advise you to leave her first!!! Like that she'll learn to respect you even if you are NOT together!!!
GOD BLESS YOU & HAPPY LIFE
2007-01-21 17:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boshie,
One thing you've GOT to understand. Women who hit men have issues, and they're not going to be solved easily. She needs counseling for whatever she has gone through.
I've heard of too many men who are around women who hit and as soon as that man hits back (sometimes to even protect himself) he is the one who goes to jail. I'm not joking - I know police that warn guys all the time and tell them to get away from the relationship because judges are biased towards women. It's not fair, I know.
You sound like a nice guy and there are many nice girls out there - get out of this relationship and find a girl who is emotionally healthy because you can not "save" a girl who needs counseling. She has to get that on her own and in the meantime, you should not subject yourself to that abuse - both emotional and physical.
By the way, if you grew up with your mom being abusive, then you are falling into a type of behavior that is very common for boys who were abused, and you might want to seek out some counseling too, so you don't end up with another girl like this.
Hope this helps!
2007-01-21 12:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by Romey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are being the nice guy and that she is taking that for granted, you have to let her know that you don't appreciate her hitting you and that she should respect you the way you respect her. This can turn into an abusive relationship if she thinks you will put up with it. It seems like you need to find a person that can control their temper and that can handle not getting their way all the time. Good Luck.
2007-01-18 11:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by 2g4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who love one another do not slap each other. Who knows what she would do if she got really angry. Some people have real anger issues. They tend to get real mad, say and do bad things and than the next min they are ok. I hope i a wrong, but once someone begans to hit, they usually will not stop. If i was you i would think about not being with someone like that. You deserve better than that. wish you well.
2007-01-13 19:31:46 · answer #11 · answered by deb c 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋