hii every1 out ther ,well this is a prob i have been facing for long.i was in love with this girl and she too was n we both thought of getting married but then she was having sex with some other guy at the same time n one day i went to her house n found out that she sleep with him ,we had our share of arguments and fights n i left tho i loved her soo much that she meant my whole life ...after a few weks she came to me as the other person left her n only wanted her for sex ,we then talked with each other n moved together in a house she loves me i know that but since that incident i jus cant trust her no matter wat n how hard i try ,is this a prob of my mind ,wat should i do my life has changed a lot after that tho i am happy i jus cant seem to digest that she cheated on me ,plz do give me some advice how to improve our relationship
2007-01-13 19:00:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's been 10 years for me when my husband did it to me and I still can't and won't trust him.When it's gone it's gone for good.That doesn't take away the love you have for them.What it does do is the way you look at them with a little disgust and disappointment.You will always feel that.You become very good at hiding your true feelings.
2007-01-13 19:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you my situation so you can get a good idea. I was with a girl for three years. And then she left me for some random guy in the blue. I was devastated and we were broken up for about two months. Not to mention that she had sex with the guy the same day that we broke up. Well after two months she had told me that she still loves me and rushed back into it and everything seemed to be going fine but thte problem was that I was not over what happened. I still remembered and I didn't trust her anymore. We broke up this past November because I just couldn't do it anymore. I just know that I can't spend my life always worrying about her. I know that I deserve someone that I can trust and don't have to worry about her doing anything behind my back. I think one bad move you did was moving in with her right after she did that. You and I made a similar mistake in that we just acted when they said they wanted us back. What I have learned is that you should take it slow when someone breaks your trust, almost like starting over, that is if you think it is worth it. I wish the the best. Good luck buddy.
2007-01-13 19:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by HHH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try to seek couple counseling, for one.
Things to do on your own is to spend some more quality time together. Talk about things, and don't hold back-- keep the lines of communication open: its the key in making any relationship work.
If you really find, after hard work and adjustment that you can't trust her, first take another step backward... and get your own independence back and keep the relationship in a dating-type status. You may not be ready to live together now, especially after what happened. I think most importantly, is to give your relationship time to heal, regardless of how you need to do that.
If, after time and hard work you STILL can't trust her... it may be time to move on. It's sad, and a hard thing to do, but truly, there is no love without trust.
2007-01-13 19:08:28 · answer #3 · answered by littlekitty1985 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life would be so much simpler if we all stuck to that never-failing adage "once a cheater, always a cheater". Future is ahead of you man, not in the rear-view mirror. Dump the girl man, and find some decent one. There are still a lot of them around, although the figures are seriously shrinking down.
2007-01-13 19:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through this myself.I was also cheated on by my husband of 19 years..it is very hard to forget, I really dont think that you ever will, only my opnion but it has been 3 years now for me and I remeber it like it was yesterday..She is going to have to eran your trust again and that my firend will take along time..You will both have to work very hard at this relationship.. good luck
2007-01-13 19:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by browneyedonna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things are NEVER the Same after that.
Sorry.
Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater.
Leave Her, Move On.
2007-01-13 19:04:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have confidence is stressful to realize. as quickly as somebody breaks that have confidence...that's complicated to learn returned. if my bf cheated on me, i does not even think of of giving him a 2d danger. whether i do provide him yet another danger, i'm going to never be waiting to forgive or ignore. have you ever forgiven her? are you able to ignore relating to the incident?
2016-10-19 23:10:39 · answer #7 · answered by reus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is truly sorry and loves you try to forgive her. People are not perfect and do horrible things to the poeple they love. You culd also try to go for counselling together to talk it all through.
2007-01-17 05:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by Islandgirlss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would either dump her or get even. If you don't, you will never be at peace with her cheating on you.
2007-01-13 19:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋