we both know we have mistakes,
he told me he loves me but he still left me.
why?
2007-01-13 18:52:41 · 12 answers · asked by blehtin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think that if he really loved you he wouldn't have left. unless you cheated on him in the past. i had a friend that was so in love with this girl, and he found out that she cheated and he just couldn't stand her anymore.
2007-01-13 18:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by Virginia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, I am always sorry to hear these kinds of issues---maybe a communication problem caused what you are going through---lots of people don't know how to settle things or approach mates with problems...it goes downhill real quick if screaming and yelling is all that goes on. Sometimes people love a person but can no longer live with them---I don't know why---who should know????You should. There has got to be a few times you felt something was wrong. Think about it. Mistakes??? We all make mistakes---we all do. how you handle them is a matter of maturity and respect. Should have talked them over---but you probably didn't. Too bad---look what happened. Give him a week or two---I mean leave him ALONE--when you do see him, see if you two can have a safe, sane, adult try at communicating---be big and apologize if necessary---how bad do you want him back??? So get husy and write down what may have happened--then work on making them go away---correct it. He said he still loves you---so that's a good start---try a week or two apart and then be nice---talk or don't talk--sit and look at each other--hold hands and keep your mouth shut---tell him you have his favorite foods ready to eat---just try something to make a go of it. Put on some nice music and set a nice atmosphere---maybe you won't have to talk about the trouble right away---just have a nice couple of hours together. God, don't be a nag---but if he is going to be a jerk and not try--you can't do much about it. Just get your dignity together and get back to living life.
2007-01-14 03:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says that he still loves you, he wouldn't have left. He would have stayed and make things work in the marriage. What ever the case may be, people make mistakes.
You may try to contact him and make arrangements to meet together and talk about how you both can make things work. It takes two to tangle. You two need to want to change a few things with yourselves if it is causing you to be upset. Start acting like a married couple rather than acting like kids.
I would consider on getting counseling to ease your pain.
He ran away from the problem, but didn't make an effort to fix things. So what makes you think that he will want to come back, if he can't fix it now?
2007-01-14 03:01:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a COPOUT!!!!!!!!! He can't take the life of a married man because he's insecure and not considerate of u....My advice to u is RUN .He'll just do this again during the next big problem.He uses this excuse "OH I love YOU " ... yey.... right.... If he loved u , really loved u ,HE would work things out,Counseling, he'd be there for your needs, anything... to show u... THe bottom line ...He don't want to b married anymore.Why would u want a weak man? You r suppose to respect him & look up to him but how can u ever do that when he just shows u what hes not......... made of???????????Get a life and 4 God sakes Don't waste no more time like I did..........Marriage is hard but it takes alot more than love IT TAKES DESIRE TO BE THERE AND BE A PART OF WHAT MARRIAGE IS ..... GOOD LUCK HONEY,...Go find someone who really does love & respect you!!!!!!
2007-01-14 03:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. I felt your pain. If it's any consolation, I've been through it and I'm about to go through it again. I know when you ask "why" you are seeking answers that no one can give you, except him. And he's gone. I'm so sorry. Try to fill up your time with things you enjoy. Or, things you can stand to do, for now. It'll get better, I promise.
2007-01-14 03:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only he can answer that. Please go for counselling. If you can do couples counselling, try. But if he has left, he may not be interested. But you should go for counselling by yourself. Also, call on all your friends and family for support. This is a time when you really need someone to help you.
2007-01-14 02:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by Kate A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on the limited information you provided, I can only assume that while he still loves you, he is not in love with you. That is why he left.
2007-01-14 03:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to mend a broken heart is with a new love..
Divorce hubby..
Find a new man..
Make better choices next time.
2007-01-14 03:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter why. move on. find some one who will want to be with you. right now you need to find a guy who you can use as a rebound-sucks-but hey it works.
2007-01-14 03:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by Diana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he want's to change his life, but feels that he can't do that with you. You won't go in the direction he want's to go.
2007-01-14 03:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋