was told to move out by my boyfriend/babies dad...we are trying to patch things up and going to councelling soon.The reason for the break up are my suspcions and jealousies. He will see an attractive woman take her out for coffee or spend time with her alone and hide it from me and not awnser his phone. Then when I blow up he thinks he has done nothing rong. HE admits that he is attracted to them but nothing would happen. If I dont let him make friends with these women im caging him in,, but i dont know why he needs to have friends of the opposite sex. I am seriously wondering what you would do if this was you..let him have plutonic no sex relationship with women he finds attractive or be upset and suspicious and want to leave like I am.? Am I over reacting? Is it okay for your husbands/boyfriends to have friends of the opposite sex and be attracted to them and spend lots of alone time with them? Any input would be appreciated as I am lost right now.
2007-01-13 18:39:36 · 4 answers · asked by jennyve25 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Note he is not cheating as he took a lie detector test and passed with flying colors also I am seeing a psychologist myself.
2007-01-13 18:40:14 · update #1
If he loved you he wouldnt be attracted to any other women because you would be all he wanted and nothing else. There is ways to trick a lie detecting test by the way. Also honestly I believe you should find you a good man for you and your son. He shouldnt be going out with these girls or be attracted to them in any way. You can find someone that will be good to you and not be attracted to anyone but you and that is what you need. Good Luck with everything. Also have you tried giving him options as in either he stops going out to eat with them and also he cant be attracted to any of the either, or otherwise you will leave. Tell him you need someone that is only attracted to you and dont spend all there time with other women. I can understand spending sometime with guy friends but women all the time isnt right at all. I know that has to be very stressful on you and very hurtful. Hope this helps some.
2007-01-13 18:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My life's experiences tell me that men do NOT want female friends. If they have them, they are just women that are marked for "the next one". He seems to be shopping around for your replacement. He is hiding "friendships, he is being deceptive, he is just plain lying. He is also blaming you for his actions. Most men I know do not want to be alone, so they get "replacements" in line before they discard what they have. Men also don't consider "emotional affairs" and cheating. If they haven't had actual sex, then they haven't cheated. Women on the other hand are more upset by emotional affairs than actual sex outside the relationship. Decide what YOU need in a relationship, then work toward that in counseling. If he cant give it to you.... MOVE ON
2007-01-14 03:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by Leea928 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating point blank. Been there done that and regret it. Friends of the opposite sex isn't a bad thing but time alone with them for no reason is him hiding crap from you. If he want then he would answerer his phone when you call.
2007-01-13 18:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by bigb62960 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband has female friends,they text and talk at work but thats it.he better not let me find out he took one of them out for anything
2007-01-13 18:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by starr67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋