What happens after seven years of marriage?

Question

I heard that the average divorce is around 7.3 years, why? What happens after seven years?

The seven year itch? You mean for someone else?

Answer 1

Hopefully, thee two of you will celebrate your 7th wedding anniversary, and will continue to work very hard to overcome what ever obstacles that might get in your way to prevent a divorce.

Answer 2

I dont think you should be so much concerned of whats going to happen 7 years after a marriage but more on the first couple years of marriage because thats really going to determine the outcome of the marriage later on. The reason why some marriages only lasts 7 years or shorter is because of all the negative and conflicts accumalated since the first day of the marriage all the way to whatever year or how long the marriage has lasted. A big reason for that is because most couples when they first get married or when they first just fall in love what happens is they get in the "in love" phase where everything in their minds is all focused on their partner. They believe they are in love with that person and are willing to do everything and anything just to make that person happy. What actually happens is their mind gets programmed to get out of touch with reality and everything that revolves around them is their lover. Now in most marriages after the first 1 or 2 years, people will fall out of that "in love" phase and start to get back in touch with reality and whats going on in the real world. This is when the conflicts and arguements starts to build up and they feel like they cant take it anymore and therefore it ends up in a divorce. I'm going to explain why that is the case. Each person has something thats called a love language and what that means is that whenever your lover can't speak to you what your love language is, you won't feel loved. There are 5 love languages total. I will shortly go over them for you.
1. Acts of service-this is a common love language that most men have. Basically the people with this language feel most loved when their spouse does some sort of act of service for them whether that is cleaning the house or doing an errand or cooking or etc.
2. Quality time-plain and simple. The person with this language needs their spouse to just spend time alone together with them.
3. Gifts-for this language, receiving gifts mean a lot. It doesnt matter if the gift was an item bought or made, it will still greatly impact the person receiving it.
4. Words of affirmation-this person will need to always be uplifted or be encouraged by the power of words. Words to this person mean a lot and can impact greatly either in a positive way or negative way depending and what was said. This language is personally my main love language by the way.
5. Finally the last language is physical touch. Plain and simple, this person needs to always be touched whether that is getting a hug, kiss, pat on the back, sexual intercourse, any form of physical contact.

Thats just a general overview or idea of how each love language works. If u want to know more about it, there is actually a book called "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman that u can read to find more about it.

Personally, my marriage was going downhill and ive experiences many conflicts and hardships with my spouse but after reading this book and associating with great loving couples, it has really changed my relationship with my wife and we plan to last forever in our marriage.

Whether you're just curious or thinking about getting married soon or already in a marriage, its just great to know more about how relationships work or why marriages fail and i really recommend that you read this book because you will find many things that you can be able to relate to and learn more about how or why marriages fail or succeed. Other than that i hope youve picked up something here or have learned something that i've mentioned above.

jnj

Answer 3

Don't worry about average divorces. Divorces only happen when one person decides to walk out on the other. After seven years is all up to those two people. Screw statics and the average amount of time...just live life and love it. I don't mean to sound harsh but if two people really love each other...then they shouldn't have to worry about any divorces and just keep living on with their lives

Answer 4

What happens after seven years?.... The eighth year. LOL


Seriously, I suppose people just fall apart from each other. I have heard that it is usually after five years. I've been married for 8 years and never felt that seven year itch.

Answer 5

People can stay married for a life time if they really love each other and work at it. A marriage may not even last seven years. long. It all depends on the love and effort put into it the relationship.

Answer 6

If the relationship doesn't work out, it doesn't have to take 4 or 7 years, it could even happen after 1 or 2 or even after 10 years. Everything we do always comes with uncertainties.....live to the fullest and cherish those precious moments.

Answer 7

Yeah that seven year itch thing.
It's said I believe because by then your comfortable with each other and are ready for something new.
Never went through it myself. Just like wine every year passing we just get better and better.

Answer 8

The 7 year itch.

Answer 9

nothing, this is the average. some marriages end sooner others later. Year seven is just as uneventful (or maybe as eventful) as year 6 or 8

Answer 10

The average divorce happens.