Is he bisexual?

Question

My co-worker treats me as if I am the most precious thing. I have fallen for him. When I had first asked him if he was married, he said he was single. And when I asked if he was dating anyone, he said he was, and it was man. It was extremely disappointing. But he also said this relationship was not going well though.

When I asked him about himself, he said he had dated women in hte past. He is now 32. He dated and slept with women in college and felt something was missing. He thought about it for a year and began to date men. I asked him if the thought of having sex with a woman repulsed him and he said no.

His current relationship is not going well, but he has feelings for a previous boyfriend.

Is he bisexual? Is it wishful thinking? He does treat me like he loves me.I love him so much,I want him to be happy even if I am not a part of the happiness. I do wish he is bisexual and we could have an open relationship with him where both could be happy. Need some opinions here.

Answer 1

hey is gay, maybe he loves you like a find, because clearly he can't find what he wants in a woman

Answer 2

Honey, this response comes from Canada.

First, I'm not certain you really want what you write about. It seems you are wishing a different scenario than what's on hand.

Darling, this man is obviously attentive to men. As for dating women, I don't believe he gave you a 'concrete' response.

You suggested that in order to be with this guy you would be willing to make compromises. Is this really what you want? No exclusviity? No, you and you only? You obviously are enamoured by him because of the way he makes you feel; but seriously, are you sure he's not doing it out of kindness and 'friendship' ?

Sweety, we all would love to have the person in our lives that makes us feel - well - on top of the world. I warn you though, when we get to that point, you will learn to resent him for seeing others and not paying 100 % to you. You know you won't stand for that and then .. where does this actually leave you.

Here's what I would do. Explain to this guy, how he makes you feel. Tell him - and be honest about it - that you would like to move the relationship you have with him to 'higher levels' including - well what you hope for.

Ask him if he can someday feel that way too. Chances are, you won't find the answer you hope for, but at least you will awaken him to the real you.

I really hope that you learn from this that 'mixed' relationship do not really work. Compromises are just understandings and boundaries, and to my knowledge, a real relationship has no compromises nor boundaries.

I wish you luck.

love bga

Answer 3

If he is dating a man, chance are strong he is bi. Find out what you can about why the relationship with the current bf is going bad. Maybe he'll even ask if you' be interested.

Answer 4

he may be bi or gay. or may not want a label.

many gay men date women in order to deny ther "gay"ity or because theyre confused.

society shouldnt label people.

but just ask him if he'd ever want a cup of coffee like SO many sitcoms and if he is interested he'll take the oppurtunity. just make sure its clear its not a "just friends" thing.

Answer 5

Yep From what you say I think , so. He has so many choices that is what really confuses him. He more feelings and choices than the average strictly striaght or gay person has so be patient and things will go your way

Answer 6

if you love him try the necessary thing to do otherwise it will be your regret forever. tell him you had feelings for him.

Answer 7

He sounds bi- and if you want some risky business- you can go for it and see what happens-take care-D

Answer 8

I think he is straight

Answer 9

he is bi.. do what u feel is right