help me how to make my fiance love me?

Question

I'll make my story short.. my fiance doesn't love me anymore by the time she left in our country to work abroad she finds someone there.. more mature more traits that she likes for a guy... although she's here in our home now, she always chat with him, she even play online games with that guy. she told me she doesn't love me anymore, but she gave me a chance to change, to be mature and to be a good father. but really i did all i love her so much i don't want to loose her. i love my daughter too. its just everytime i cried in front of her begging to love me, but she always says im pushin her away... and the wierdest thing is we still sleep together.. but why she tells me she dont love me?? im so confused.. please help me please... what am I going to do?

Answer 1

Having sex has nothing to do with love! It works for both men and women. She doesn't have to love you to enjoy having sex with you. You can't make someone love you too. If she's trying to change you into something you don't want to be, let her go now. You'll be happier alone. Oh, and until you get your relationship figured out, don't marry her!

Answer 2

First of all don't listen top fire-inur. What an insensitive @$$
Secondly, the fact that there is a child involved makes this a lot harder to walk away from. But the fact is she is not in this the way you are. She is basically cheating on you. You need to tell her that she is the one who needs to grow up and be mature. She is acting like an immature brat right now. She knows just how much you love her and is banking on the fact that you won't leave her no matter how badly she treats you. You need to let her know that either she is the one who changes or you will leave. If she doesn't change than you need to go. If you don't she will know that you will stay and take her abuse. There are women out there who will love you and your sensitive side and who won't ask you to change a thing. Good Luck.

Answer 3

There is NO WAY to MAKE a person love you. First you must love yourself before you can love anyone else. Since you have a child, your best bet is to cut her loose and provide for your child through child support and being there so that the child grows up with you in their life.
Your partner sounds very immature if she has the nerve to talk to other men when she's still living with you. She's playing you, pal. Both of you need to grow up and get away from each other, thanking God that you are NOT married to her.

Answer 4

The more you beg the more she'll lose respect for you. She wants a STRONG man... not a wuss that she can push around. She is treating you like crap right now. If she doesn't love you anymore she should leave... she should not be staying with you and sleeping in the same bed with you while you beg her to stay and try to 'change' to be more of who she thinks you should be. What you need to do is start acting mature by not begging her anymore. You can be respectful of her... but don't be a doormat (it will only make her want to be with the new guy who acts more "mature" or more like a man and less like a little boy who has to asks Mommy for attention). Be nice to her but if she starts ordering you around... tell her NO. Do be mature... don't play games or say things that you don't mean. Be a good Dad. Focus your attention on your child. She might leave... but your child is forever.

Trust me. This happened with me YEARS ago. My highschool sweetheart was a little immature... and he started to annoy me... and I met a new more mature man who acted more confident and sure of himself which was a turn on. The more my highschool sweetheart kissed my a$$ the less attracted I was to him.

What you need to do is demand to be treated with respect. Tell her that you understand that she's been unhappy in the relationship and that there are things that need to be worked on... and that you're willing to work on them and stick it out because you really care about saving the family... but that you cannot tolerate her having an emotional affair while she is still sleeping with you in the bed and living in the house with you. Tell her that she is turning outside of the relationship to solve the problems rather than working with you and that if she continues to do so your hands are tied. Tell her that you will NOT stay with a woman who cheats on you. Tell her that you would never cheat on her and that she should show you the same respect. Tell her that if she doesn't love you and doesn't want to work on things then she needs to leave.

Continue to be respectful of her... be polite. But DON'T BEG HER to stay with you. The more you beg and look like a little whimpy boy the less and less she'll respect you. Trust me. If you stand up for yourself at least you'll have your dignity and maybe she'll start to look at you as a man.

Answer 5

You have lost her, and there is nothing you can do about it. Don't read too much into the fact that she is still sleeping with you, it's called a pity-f uck. She has decided whom she wants, and it's not you. All your begging and crying is only making you look desperate and needy. Accept the facts, work out a way in which you can still be a father in your daughter's life, and move on with your own.

Answer 6

Just became a man.

All those crays and bagging's worst nothing if you won't change your personality which is very difficult.

I have to be honest, you sound like a woman especially in USA, where is one step left or right, and you are already a gay for everybody. Girls do not like it.

Please read and educate yourself, so you defiantly will know how to handle this situation.

Right now you are in the sh... If you want to win you have to be strong and firm. It means leave her for awhile and take care about yourself. It might sounds selfish, but what it does - it improves your self confidence and self control.

Became a person, so she will recognize you.

Answer 7

What a pathetic story----you do not get any sympathy from me. You seem to stay in a stupid relationship and I don't know why. What makes you think that you can MAKE someone love you???Baby, it's over---grow up---move on. You better get a grip on reality. If you can't you probably need serious help from a professional. The story is just plain out of kilter and you know it. Why is she still in your house? Tell her to pack up herself and the kid and get out---out means out---and you mean it it-----too late for anything to be done. What confusion could there possiblybe here?? You better get a set of clackers and move on.

Answer 8

If you want her to respect you and find you attractive, you need to work on your own self-respect. You should never have to beg for someone's love. I guarantee if you want her to find you attractive once again, you need to gather up your self-esteem and tell her that you love her and your child; however you will not stay in a relationship where you are not respected or loved in return. Get your things and move out. Don't be intimate with her...in other words play a little hard to get, act like you have moved on and if that doesn't get her to take notice of what she will be missing without you in her life, nothing will. You will never get a woman to respect and love you unless you show yourself respect. We treat others how to treat us, now show her how you should be treated!

Answer 9

You cant make someone love you. Sounds like she grew apart from you and that might be impossible to change. Her heart isn't true and she'll probably shaft the next guy eventually too. Let her know what life would be like without you and if shes willing to live that way, sometimes people take things in life for granted and dont know what they have until its gone. Good luck.

Answer 10

Sorry, but she doesn't sound like she's worth fighting for. What kind of woman would treat you like that, openly carrying on with another man- having sex with you- and playing head games with your heart (by using guilt trips on you saying it is your fault, that you're not mature) I think you need to do some serious thinking about what this relationship would truly be like if you did marry.
**Look, even relationships that are perfect, perfect, perfect go through struggle after marriage and you are starting out really far from happiness now, your future with her looks bleak.