I engadged with girl and next month i am going to marry her. But I examine she does not love me but she is forced by her family. on the other hand i love her from the core of my heart. tell me what should i do?
2007-01-13 17:37:32 · 9 answers · asked by Green Valley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know much about arranged marriages but I think living with somebody you don't love is a grim way to spend the rest of your life.
2007-01-13 17:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are second guessing her love for you then you too need to really talk about it.Or just postpone the wedding until you are more sure.
This is not something to take lightly plus you don't want to question her love during the marriage it will just ruin your communication. That's not fair to you or her. It's not a good way to start your lives together.
I know you love her but you can never make someone love you.Please don't be selfish about this and think that your love will be enough.You also deserve to be loved back.If not you both could end up hurting each-other in the end. I know you don't want that.
I know the wedding is suppose to be next month and the family is excited but this is your lives. You two have to live together and struggle together. Don't go into it halfhearted. When you get married it should be a sure thing. So when you two see each other on that day you both are proud and happy you are there.
Also what you could be picking up on is all her stress dealing with the wedding. So just talk to her and make sure you both really want this. Getting married is a big deal.No MATTER WHAT STATISTICS SAY. could just be jitters. Good luck
2007-01-13 17:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still don't have to marry her. It takes 2 in a marriage. Do what is right. Don't let the pressure of outsiders determine what is right for the both of you. Its your lives we are discussing, not the influencers. I would tell them to "Back Off", and gird up your loins and be a man.
The 2 of you are entitled to happiness, and not by force or otherwise. No one can force anyone to love another person.
Sometimes in life we have to love something enough to do what is right. It'll hurt you now, but if you marry out of pressure and she is not happy, you'll pay the ultimate price.
So, pay now or later. Save yourself a LOT OF GRIEF. Do the right thing now. Sorry.
2007-01-13 18:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by HowFuzzyWuzee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get married for the sake of making some old people happy. If she does not love you then why would you force her ?
Imagine if you were told to marry somebody you did not love but she loved you allot? what would you do then.
I think arranged marriages should be made illegal and be kept as a thing of the past.
2007-01-13 17:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does she really knows you in deep?
Maybe she only needs to really know you better. Know who you really are and what you really can do and can offer her... give her sometimes..
On the other hand, if her family is forcing her to marry you and she does not really love you, then make you and her a huge favor, don't get married.
2007-01-13 17:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by Apollonia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask the girl, not us. A good discussion would involve your feelings for her and to ask how they might develop for you. At the worst she will respect you for asking. At the best you'll acquire a loving wife. Put off your marriage until then.
2007-01-13 18:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her then do what is best for her. Let her go. Then maybe she will find out what a great guy you are and you can start a friendship. Let her off from what will be cruel to her.
2007-01-13 17:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by Trollkepr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait awhile and try to win her love if you can.
2007-01-13 17:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
f--- her one last time, then don't look back.
2007-01-13 17:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋