On our wedding night, when we made love for the first time (first time for both of us), my husband passed blood & had excrutiating pain that made him cry and double over with agony.The erection wouldn't go away for at least 4 hours. It was so bad he had to go to the ER. Miracle of miracles, on that night we conceived our daughter who is 12. The pain I felt giving birth was nothing compared to what hubby went through to conceive her. We've only had sex a handful of times since then.
So our daughter is 12, & has for the past few months acted very hateful towards me & her father. Its taken it's toll on my husband. He's a strict, but loving father. She screams she hates him, wishes him dead when she doesn't get her way.
It hurts him soo bad. It's bizarre, he wants to try for another baby now. After over 12 years of marriage, we've only had sex a handful of times.Now he wants to try as many times as it takes for another baby. Could this sex problem be psychological? Would therapy help?
2007-01-13 17:37:03 · 14 answers · asked by maddishall 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
1 see whats wrong with his equipment
2 your daughter is acting like a normal preteen
3 find out from your daughter how the 3 of you may get along better
4 no more children
5 adopt if you must have a child!
2007-01-13 17:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEAR yes the girl needs family help her she is the one that needs therapy treatment in a hospital fora 96 hour hold for test and a metal help have her father do these this listed below you ask now i am going to help here are the steps you take 5 of then OK good luck you to and a happy new year (1) call the doctor and set up a apartment with out her there why she is in school you and you husband go and talk to him and are her tell him are her what is going on at home. (2) run all test on her from a u blood work cat scan MRI EEG EKG emg and a sleep study (3) take her in for a full check up (4) make him are her give her something to come her little self down give her night sleep medicine (5) until that do this pop her in the mouth for binging sassy are spank her bottom until it is really red and she has to sit on a pillow
2007-01-13 17:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would strongly recommend both couples therapy/sex counceling to try and get your husband to enjoy sex for the act of sex again, not for the result. And I would also highly recommend family therapy. Your daughter needs your attention and love right now, not a replacement. She's acting the way she is for a reason, and you need to make sure that your current child is taken care of. After than, if you two decide you want to have another baby, best of luck to you.
2007-01-13 17:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good god. Has your husband been to the doctor? It sounds like he has a serious infection, STD, or testicular cancer. If it's none of those, he needs psychological help. How selfish of him to withhold physical love for you, yet be willing to do it when it's for his benefit.
At the same time, your daughter is hitting puberty and obviously she's going to be a handful the next few years. Don't let your husband just give up on her. How stupid to say "Oh well, might as well have another." Please take the time to read books or take a class or two on how to continue raising your daughter through the next 6 years of her life. The absolute worst thing you could do right now is have another baby and ignore her.
2007-01-13 17:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
His problem should be looked into more by a doctor. Se should not be painful and since this has been going on for awhile it could be very serious. As for him wanting another child because your daughter is older and going through adolescence and being rude is kind of a silly reason IMO for wanting another child, but that is a personal decision for both of you to make.
Here is more on painful intercourse:
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/painfulintercourse.htm
&
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/menshealth/facts/peyronies.htm
Best wishes on everything!
2007-01-13 17:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy now you shouldn't concieve again.
AND MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The 12 year old child. You think you have it bad now, how would you feel if you were an only child for 12 years then all of a sudden a new baby! You need to straighten things with her before you even THINK ABOUT trying to concieve again. She'll think that she wasn't good enough.
2007-01-13 17:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just a quick question dose it hurt him now to have sex? And do you want to have another child? If yes i would just make he want to have baby regardless of the way you daughter is acting.
2007-01-13 17:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by mysslady35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, going to therapy would probably help. I don't think having another child would benefit your husband, what if that child reacts the same way to him?
2007-01-13 17:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why the heck would you go through 12 years of a marraige with no sex life? why didnt he seek the help of a doctor to find out what his physical problem is? this is 2007, surely there are ways they could have helped him so you could have a normal healthy sex life. i know thats not really your question but its boggling my mind that you guys havent sought help for this in the past..
2007-01-13 17:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by Mina222 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to get your family, all 3 of you, into family counseling. Itll get worse if you dont. And a baby will only make things worse at this point not better..
2007-01-13 17:41:41 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋