Im 15 years old and for the last 3 years i have been sexually attracted to men.i don't know how it turned that way it just did. i really need guidance i don't want to be gay, i don't want to be looking at men that way, but i just can't help it. I jus want to be a normal straight guy who likes girls. i mean i was never always like this. before 2002 i was sexually attracted to women but then it just switched. is there any chance that it will switch back? do u guys think that this is just a phase?
2007-01-13 17:24:30 · 10 answers · asked by Martin 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Guy your young and questioning a lot of things in your life...It all depends on if you believe the argument that's it's in your genes and accept that... guilt, family and peer pressure and religion keep us from being true to self.....If you are there are support groups all over the world now with people your own age in them,,,,Be true to yourself gay or straight....be true to what God created... find a church that supports whatever choice you discover.....It's not a choice......It's not like flipping a coin...I wish when I was younger I could have found support...It would have made all the difference in the world.....proud gay christian.....your normal wether your gay or straight.....don't listen to negative crap .....,
2007-01-13 18:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put labels on yourself unless you want to. If having sex with other guys feels right, do it. If having sex with women feels right, do it - but don't be in a hurry to do either. If you are more attracted to men than women, so be it, it isn't the end of the world. The worst thing you can do is deny your sexuality, go with the flow and see how things eventuate.
Despite what all your friends in school tell you, most 15 year olds are virgins - and most 16 and 17 year olds as well.
2007-01-14 02:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by tentofield 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get down on yourself. You may only be having feelings towards men because you are at an age where sex is probably on your mind alot. You may like girls in the future, you may not. However, if you do realize you are gay do not think of it as a negative thing. You will still have friends, family, and people who will love you for you.
Be happy with yourself, no matter what sexual preference. You will be happier if you accept what life gives you and you will enjoy it that much more.
Take care of yourself.
2007-01-14 01:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all this is just an idea in your head so I don't think your gay so don't force yourself to like a girls especially if your not attracted to them. The more you do the more you will think you are gay. You have to meet someone that you have real feelings for , so since your still in high school it will be hard to meet the right girl, but just wait. You wil definitely meet the right girl and these thougths of you being gay will go away. But just have patience and don't force it.
2007-01-14 02:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by LB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 15 and have a long life ahead of you. You are not defined by who you are attracted to but by what you do in life. There is nothing wrong with being gay, bi or straight it just is. Learn to accept yourself you will be much happier. Good luck
2007-01-14 13:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by insd92104 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most gay people start out that way. I started likeinggirls in middle school because that is what was expected of guys. As high school came along, I really started to notice and stare at the guys. Unfortunately you cannot change who you are. In time you will have to accept yourself.
2007-01-14 02:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds to me like you are gay...and this is a difficult process for you...being gay can also be great..it's just not what you expected your life to be. You're still only 15 so give yourself more time before you really convince yourself of your sexuality.
2007-01-14 02:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im at the same stage as you, i dont want to be gay but i am attracted to guys. All i can say is let time tell...
2007-01-14 03:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by Confused 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also had this one before also same as age as you but now I'm 26 and now full-blooded gay but proving that were not born gay.
but my advice to you to win this battle is to have sex with girls as soon as possible as much as you can just for you to become addict with sex to your opposite sex but still im not sure if this will work because I never experience this and when I was at your age i dont have money to support sexual needs, just try it even if you think this is a worse idea.
note: dont try to have sex with guys and after that you will say
" IT'S JUST AN EXPERIMENT"
because you ain't fooling nobody but yourself.
2007-01-14 01:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by ryan g 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
straight adults tend to say it is a phase..however i m like u..still searching for an answer..the only way to know the answer is to wait n see wat life has for u..
PS: i know wat i wrote are not useful but still i thought i would comment..
2007-01-14 01:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by zik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋