Hi,
I am 14 years old and have a problem. I have alot of friends who are males, but not to many that are females. I think that i am shy around girls in some way. That makes me say things that are....artificial. Like when i am with guys i am funny, and i have a good time. But when girls are there, i am mellow, laid back and think to much. I say things that i think about befor, wich is artificial i think. I want to be able to feel just as comfortable with girls as with boys. For another example, i get this feeling when i wrestle, everyone is watching and i am up, 1 on 1 againtst this other guy, i lose in front of everyone. Then when i challenged him at the practice room, i won. Like i said i think to much. Any suggestions?
2007-01-13 17:13:35 · 13 answers · asked by Bsilvs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
as a wrestler i know that feeling. your more comfertable in the room than infront of everyone on the mat. and your girl issue is easy. just be yourself and see how they act. you might be like that around them because you know they arent your guy friends and have different sences of humor. if you think they wont like you as a loud funny kid then they might not like that when your around em just give it a shot. be loud be funny but be respectful. girls are wonderful things but they are fragile(sometimes) and their emotions are volatile(sometimes) so watch out. just be cool and not a dumbass n dont be afraid to have an interesting convo with them its not like thye are animals or speak a different language(althought sometimes i think they do) or they arent from outer space they are just people who happen to not have a Y chromosome like you do(they also have the fun parts but thats not what matters)
so in a nutshell
girls=people
you=nervous
you=need to stop being so damn nervous
2007-01-13 17:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a thirteen-year-old girl and I can tell you that if you're overly shy around the opposite gender it probably has something to do with the fact that you're thinking ahead of yourself. Pay no mind to the fact that they're girls, because generally a lot of them will be more tomboyish than they're given credit for. Just talk to them like you would a male friend- and don't think about being anything more than friends. You seem to be a bit insecure as well as thinking too much- what you need to do is relax. Don't let your mind wander to dating these girls, or beating that guy in wrestling- just think of the task at hand, and be yourself while you're at it- you'll feel a lot better that way. Hope I helped =)
2007-01-13 17:52:30 · answer #2 · answered by koneko_sutano 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls want someone that is real and some of them are shy and just like you maybe except for the wrestling part. Thinking before you talk is a great sign of maturity it doesn't necesarily mean that you say artificial things and just means that you watch what your saying. Believe me i'm 16 and sometimes i don't think before i talk and may say dumb things that will make people dislike me. It is during those times that i which that i had thought before i talk. Because saying dumb things under impuls, without thinking according to the way you explained your sitution, will show poeple who you really are, a dumb boy. You aren't one so thinking before you talk shows that you are being smart and careful because one thing girls can't stand is a jerk, i know because jersks have talked to me before and there often the ones that can't bite their tongues.
GOODLUCK
2007-01-13 17:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by moi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's only something that's gonna change with time and more experiences. You have to put yourself on the spot, speak outloud, wrestle in front of crowds, etc. Or else nothing will ever change. Trust me, I was horribly shy when I was your age and I still kinda am. You're just shy and have a little stage freight. You'l be fine after you try.
2007-01-13 17:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by stephyrose87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay calm..... im a girl i should noe and if u cant do that then pretend when you're around girls that they're a boy just with longer hair and more matured.. lol but seriously u should get used to bein around girls cause we're gonna be here all ur life.
2007-01-13 17:19:16 · answer #5 · answered by kandiiez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im 13 and u should just try to flirt with girls and maybe u should practice wrestling more so u would win infront of girls.....
2007-01-13 17:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥cheer♥♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey what's up. Since you "think to much" just try to have more fun around girls.
2007-01-13 17:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try just imagining that all the girls are guys that way you wont have to worry about not being yourself, or you can find i good friend who is a girl and practise being yourself with her.
2007-01-13 17:32:09 · answer #8 · answered by _clo_ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea sounds like you may have a lil skeleton in your closet you know the gay gay thing? yea check your sexuality and then if its clear ask a girl who you think is real cool if she would like to be your female bestfriend
2007-01-13 17:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hit ur self in the head to dumb urself down cuz dumb ppl dont think
2007-01-13 17:18:02 · answer #10 · answered by joe v 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋