I am 14 years old, and need help with girls.....?

Question

Hi,

I am 14 years old and have a problem. I have alot of friends who are males, but not to many that are females. I think that i am shy around girls in some way. That makes me say things that are....artificial. Like when i am with guys i am funny, and i have a good time. But when girls are there, i am mellow, laid back and think to much. I say things that i think about befor, wich is artificial i think. I want to be able to feel just as comfortable with girls as with boys. For another example, i get this feeling when i wrestle, everyone is watching and i am up, 1 on 1 againtst this other guy, i lose in front of everyone. Then when i challenged him at the practice room, i won. Like i said i think to much. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

talk to girls online or on the phone rather than face to face. There's not that pretty face that makes you distracted and it's just easier to talk to them like one of the guys. Then as you pass by in the halls of school or whatever, you or she might say "hi" or some small talk. It is hard to talk with them face to face though

Answer 2

I don't think there is a solution to this problem except to continue hanging around girls. Eventually thinking will become quicker and more comfortable for you. As an analogy, as you continue to practice wrestling, eventually what now takes conscious thought for you to do will be second nature, and you will be victorious without "thinking too much." Huzzah.