We don't argue or fight and get along, but there is no fun between us at all - both in the bed and in general. I still see the person in her that I married, but I feel that what I want has changed. What to do?
2007-01-13 17:09:40 · 16 answers · asked by redwhiskers_67 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try to do fun things, of course. I mean, it's definitely worth working on your relationship with your wife. You should still be dating her once per week as a matter of fact. Good luck!
2007-01-13 17:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be kids again. Wash the car and spray her with the water hose. Start a water fight in the house. In marriage you both change what it's called is growing together. You are not suppose to be like you were when you first married. Whatever you want include her or try to turn her on to it. You never know if you don't try. If you have noticed it's boring maybe she has to and now you both are in a rut.
So get out of the funk and remember why you got married spice it up.
Jump in the shower with her.
get some wine and play stripe blackjack.
Buy her a sexy dress. have her come in and change all up like she is going out and make dinner for her with just an apron on.
Don't just sit in limbo and don't just give up on a feeling.Good luck
2007-01-14 02:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok Question, why did you marry this woman if she sucks in bed and there is no fun between you in general?
Don't you know marriages aren't always fun, once you have kids you need to stop being selfish and devote your life to having a healthy family and making them your number one priority.
I'm not here to tell you what to do, but take some time away, get some time off take her on vacation somewhere. When your there buy her a sexy outfit, tell her how beautiful she looks. Women like it when their men say that, but make sure you sincere, because women also know when a guy is full of BS.
2007-01-14 01:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by lostinmath 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is always fun and exciting in the beginning. It's how you know you really love someone if you can make it after all that lovey stuff wears off. All you need, is to bring a little spice back into it. It's so easy to get into a boring routine. Change things up a little. Get dressed up and go out on dates. Plan a really fun vacation to let yourselves go. Talk about your fantasy's and see if there is anything you've never tried before that you both my be interested in trying. Good luck!
2007-01-14 01:22:45 · answer #4 · answered by cheri_anne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are all about loving sharing talking and growing together and if the loving sharing talking stops or one person outgrows the other thats when it falls. So the answer is simple love share and talk more, tell her how your feeling!! Sit her down and say baby i love you im so glade your in my life and i want be beside you forever but lately ive been feeling like its slipping away and were becoming distant and not the great friends we used to be. Then ask her if there is anything YOU can do to bring back the magic or anyway you can get her more involved in what your interested in these days. Whatever you do youve gotta talk about it because it wont just go away like alot of devorced couples thought it would and it will just end in broken hearts
2007-01-14 01:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet_Miss_Toni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend less time on the computer! Just kidding. My advice is to at least try to fix it before you even consider divorce. But try roleplaying- Try picking up each other at a bar as if you don't know one another. If you have kids- take one night away from them and just devote your time to your wife. It may take some effort, but just try wooing her again. And if she's okay with sudden surprises, have her stuff packed when she comes home from work and take a weekend trip somewhere. Put together some old pictures or videos and remember what it was like the first time you met. Marriage is work, dont give up just because it's going through a rough patch. ;)
2007-01-14 01:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by BlackDahlia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her openly and honestly about how you feel.
Suggestions:
1- Try doing new things together. Shake things up a bit.
2- Take another honeymoon. Go someplace you both haven't been to.
3- Seek counselling.
4- Start dating again. Go back to the basics.
Good luck.
2007-01-14 01:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by LostVega$ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens to a lot of us. I think what we do is get so comfortable with this person that we just fall in a same o same o mode. I think that we have to make the fun bring things back to life the way we want it. You start planning and I think that I will to.
2007-01-14 01:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must to refresh the married... like go together to somewhere take a trip...
try to find a way to have new things in your life.. not routine....
u feel boring because u feel routine .. so u can have a change if u believe that... refresh the marriage write poems or buy gifts and put it in her bed.. let her do the same... say to her i love u.. go away from this home, make love in other where.. so u will feel yourself different believe me.
2007-01-14 01:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it's about finding commonalities and respecting the fact that the "search" is over after non-productive nights and the single questions cease. One must concentrate on whatever is forefront and seize the day, again, with respect with time and knowing that the first 18 months with ANYONE is euphoric and after that you need stuff in common!
2007-01-14 01:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by Laney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋