...he is constantly possessive of her, very highly jealous and glares at her if she says "HI" to another guy. Continues to accuse her of encouraging guys to look at her...
He threw her against the wall once and when she started to cry he says "he is sorry and that he only does the things he does because he loves her"
2007-01-13 16:51:54 · 27 answers · asked by mørbidsшεεŧnεss 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
...DOES HE REALLY LOVE HER?
2007-01-13 16:52:17 · update #1
I am an old woman and this is definitely not love. I have a problem with a man who throws a woman against the wall. That is abuse...straight up, and it will never get better. End the relationship and run as fast as you can.
2007-01-13 16:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. This definitely is not love. He may think it is. She should get away and get away fast. He is an abuser and dangerous. He is mentally ill and will not change unless he gets help. It certainly isn't love. He just wants to control her. Nothing she does will ever be right. He will always be accusing her of something. He needs help. He found someone to control and manipulate. He will just use her and abuse her and she will be sorry she ever met him. I know she will probably never listen to any advice to leave him. She is probably scared to do it anyway. He will tell her he will hurt her or her family members. He will never want her to have any friends. No life away from him because he is lord and master. He will drag her down until she feels as worthless as he does. He will degrade her and humiliate her. What, in the name of love? He has a twisted mind. I'm sure he will tell her he'll never do it again, every time he abuses her. Classic signs of an abuser. God be with her.
2007-01-20 02:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by NORTH WEST 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a man or a woman are abusers , I am adding woman to it too, is because I once knew a woman that would punch, and hit her Husband as hard as a man and eventually sent him to the Hospital. That is when he realized that she would never change her ways and left her. Now getting back to your question, if as you say this guy is mentally and physically abusing this woman, he will never change his ways because he enjoys having someone he can take advantage of and he knows that she will never leave him. What is she waiting for, for him to one of this days kill her because as you say he is starting to be more abusive and cruel to her is a sure sign he will eventually, sent her to the Hospital, and one of this days she will be sent to the morgue, tell her to wake up and leave him as soon as she can or she will regret not making this decision before it got worse.
2007-01-21 00:33:40 · answer #3 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, love is trust. He see's her as a possession and wants to control her. Sounds as though he has issues and is very insecure with himself and takes it out on her. She needs to get out of that relationship before he snaps and she really gets hurt. Unfortunately, if he is like this now, he may stalk her and she will have to get a restraining order.
2007-01-20 21:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by vivib 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is VERY sick and dangerous behavior! It is symptomatic of a person who will become what is charmingly called a 'wife beater'
There is NO LOVE here. This is a relationship that the woman should as quickly and nicely as possible get out of, and as far away as she can from this guy. This is seriously a danger to her every second she stays with him. Get away now!
2007-01-14 01:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by roscoedeadbeat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not love. Also, not hate. This is a sick need to possess and control through abuse.
Abuse goes on only as long as one allows it to.
When you love yourself you can find the courage to end the abuse, by removing yourself from the equation.
2007-01-14 01:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No there is no love just a lot of insecurity on his part which is now translating into violence. Abusers are like that. They only love themselves. She should break it off with him A.S.A.P. or we may be reading about her as a homicide victim one day in the newspapers!
2007-01-14 00:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by Alletery 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is not love. This person needs to get out this situation fast. She could end up hurt physically and emotionally. She could end up in an abusive relationship, if she already hasn't. My friend was in one and once she was in it, it was extremely hard to get out of it. I hope this person makes the right choice and gets out of this situation.
2007-01-14 01:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by soyunapersona 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a thin line between love and obsession and another thin line between love and insanity...however, insanity and obsession seem to fall on the same side of the line...
If it's not love then it should be either be obsession or insanity or both.
2007-01-14 01:01:08 · answer #9 · answered by karl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not love. It's abuse. And it's only likely to continue and get worse. End it now. Seek therapy.... and consider a restraining order.
2007-01-14 01:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by georgiagolfer72 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋