and accuse you of judging them, & trying to find flaws or mistakes that you have made that may measure up to what they have done? I know some people who have done and do many bad things...such as having their car stolen and reaping the benefits, in the meantime, scaring their kids that someone was going to get them in their own home where they should be safe.... also parents who do drugs all day or night with their kids in the next room, drive their cars high with their kids in there and so on...But when issues like these have been addressed, it's pretty much a universal answer like... I'm acting like I'm better than them, or I'm high and mighty, or them trying to point out my NOT ILLEGAL mistakes, so I shouldn't judge... and things of that nature. I'm not judging, I just don't want my friends or family on a bad or dangerous path in life, & the kids aren't being protected and taken care of properly. Why can't people like this see that they need to change the road they're on wake up?
2007-01-13 16:44:39 · 15 answers · asked by dravensmama1216 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It goes deeper than fear or embarrassment.
It's scary.
A kid at school shoved my kid & took his basketball. Other children saw it, and told a teacher, & the other child got in trouble. When I was picking up my child, I caught the other kid's mom giving my kid a long, dirty look. Like she blamed him for getting her little angel in trouble.
My son asked me why she looked at him like that. I wasn't sure what to tell him, except that some people are truly bad and unreasonable, and you can't do much about it.
Hm, I wonder, where DO children get their inappropriate behavior?
What makes the parents that way? It's scary that they're raising another generation of antisocial psychopaths like themselves.
2007-01-13 16:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people don't want to be told they are wrong. No one wants to take responsibility anymore and our society pushes that. They say that we are judging if we have morals (not religion). Those people don't want to be told to change. People today were raised to believe that they can do whatever they want. It will catch up with them. They will either watch their kids go down the same painful path, or they will lose their kids because those kids won't want the same lousy life and won't subject their families to it.
If the kids are in danger and you want to take on the responsibility, then there are ways to do that. All I can say is that you can't change them. Not by preaching or by pressuring them. And you'll always be made out to be the bad guy. My daughter is a drug addict and thinks it's ok since she doesn't have kids. She also doesn't have a life to speak of and I feel sure that I'll receive a call that she's dead if she doesn't change. But she doesn't want to change and it's the life she's chosen. Some people have chosen a path of victim to help the rest of us learn. And in doing so, they too are learning. It's very sad to see it go on but we can't change them. Their lives are just too sad for even them to stand to be sober. Just be there for their kids and let them come to your home for a "night out" once in awhile. Don't talk to the kids about it, just let them see how life can be without it. They will learn and hopefully not repeat the same self-destructive behavior of their parents. Just show them the good that is out there without the drugs and alcohol. They need the break now and then.
2007-01-14 01:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I believe it is a defense mechanism. the reason is because they do not want to focus on there own actions and faults, the best way is to not do that is point out the other persons faults (or perceived faults). The it also may be the way you point out the faults or mistakes that put them in defense mode. Hope this helps
2007-01-14 00:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by neil j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
different reasons. First off, when someone's caught doing something they're not supposed to, what happens? They get defensive, because they're unhappy they got caught. Also, they may be immature, and they're VERY insecure.
2007-01-14 00:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by High On Life 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow......I had a situation like this with my boss yesterday and you really put it in perspective. I know you have no idea what I'm talking about but you made my day by posting this.
2007-01-14 00:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
theyre just afraid that you are going to rat them out. they are just being defensive about it because they are afraid of getting caught doing whatever they are doing. they are pointing out your flaws so that you will forget about the illegal stuff
2007-01-14 00:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its their own guilty conscience that makes them angry, dotn do anything experience must be their teacher, trust someday a cop will pull them over or they will get into a bad accident, then hopefully they will learn
2007-01-14 00:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply put...fear of getting caught.
2007-01-14 00:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by Pauly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they feel guilty and they don't know what else to do but that.
2007-01-18 00:51:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they feel guilty
2007-01-14 00:48:23 · answer #10 · answered by gabeymac♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋