For anyone who says that I am complaining, I AM!!! I just want the wealthy to know that there are people who are out there (like I am), who have actually tried to BETTER themselves and their lifestyles-- by going to college! Both my fiancee are college graduates with bachelor's degrees and are still RAMEN-EATING POOR! We both have jobs (of which our "so necessary" college led us into), but it barely covers our bills much less buy the groceries we need...
I am trying to plan our wedding because I just found out I was pregnant, and all that we can afford is a Justice of the Peace wedding...
I just love how people stress college and how great you have it after is, but we are both left with a mortgage, approx. $35,000 debt for our college education EACH, and the price of the ever so popular GAS that seems to be rocketing!
Is anyone as upset as me after they worked so hard to get where everyone else says it's "Heaven" after graduating from college???
Please help me vent! Thanks!
2007-01-13 16:40:46 · 5 answers · asked by Tasha 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Okay, "SophieB..." What does the "B" stand for anyways? *****?!
A little advice. NEVER ASSUME things about someone's lives! When you assume, you make an *** out of U and ME!
Secondly, I am a teacher, where I start at $32,000 a year (much better than most places)--SO WHY WOULD I MOVE?
About getting myself into a mortgage: My fiancee's GRANDMOTHER owned two houses of which we were able to buy one of them at HALF PRICE. OKAY, Mrs. Know-it-all, why would I go out and buy/rent a house at FULL price if I could have just bought one the same size but for half the price?!
As for me paying off my student loans: WHERE THE HELL ARE WE GOING TO GET $60,000 to pay them all off? GET REAL!
You obviously do not have a family, or else you would (first, be not so bitchy, secondly,) see the benefit of being in love and having the most awesome joy in the world--KIDS.
I have a simple solution for you also. Instead of being "Sophie *****" and leaving nasty remarks to people who are
2007-01-14 15:07:25 · update #1
venting, do not leave anything at all, since you "ANSWER QUESTIONS ONLY." You would have saved us both a lot of bull**** by you not typing what you did!
Yes, I am a teacher, and right now I am not in the classroom, much less having anyone know what my name is. In this case, I can rip someone a new *** ****. If you do have a family, you better hope to God that your children/grandchildren are not in my classroom!
Stop assuming what people's lives are like!
2007-01-14 15:10:37 · update #2
I totally agree. It is not always easy and great after you get out of college. I haven't been able to find a job for the longest time, but yet still have to write that check for student loans every month, It sucks!
Good Luck and Congrats on the marriage and baby!
2007-01-13 16:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by **wishin** 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Obviously you are in a position right now where money is tight, even though your Wedding seems to be built up by everyone and is supposed to be so wonderful, look back on your college. Everyone said you needed to do it, but now you're paying out the butt for it. So when planning your wedding, be reasonable. Be frugal, its the action thats important, not that you have a wonderful wedding dress and great food at a reception. Besides, you can always renew your vows and have a better wedding down the road. Shop smart. Besides, you need to save your money for the little one that's coming along. and if people give you pressure for not have a wonderful wedding, who cares. you'll know you did the right thing. its just like college, it doesn't have to be spectacular visually, its that you love each other and are being joined as one thats important. :) hope i helped somewhat.
2007-01-13 16:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by BlackDahlia 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all after graduation you needed to search out a job country-wide, not get married, not get pregnant, not get yourself stuck with a mortgage, and you were supposed to pay off your student loans first (and apply for and get grants while you were in college and work your way thru college and not get one loan after another...work all your years while schooling, and work weekends too). Guess you made some mistakes and now have to so-to-speak pay the piper.
The fact is that these days people don't even get mediocre jobs if they don't have a college degree, so in some ways you are better off, and should be happy you're both working. When your baby is born and after the dust settles down a bit, I suggest your husband scour the country for a better paying job and take you and child with him, You didn't say what either of you are doing as careers nor which part of the country you are in.
I don't help people vent, I supply answers. What's your real question?
2007-01-13 17:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by sophieb 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You have a mortgage? That means you can afford to buy a home, not pay a landlord rent. Count yourself lucky.
\Statistics show that a person with a high school diploma makes 50% of what a person with a college degree will make over their lifetime(s).
You need to gain some perspective.
2007-01-13 16:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by blue.green_eyes 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
blur is right.
2007-01-13 16:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by heather197404 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋