how can i make my husband happy?

Question

i know that im not perfect but when i try to do something right its always something wrong. sometimes i slack on my job but i make up for it .i can cook dinner and he finds something wrong still i can clean house and its still something wrong. someone please help!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

sounds like a constant complainer, kick him to the curb. No matter what you do it will never be good enough.

Answer 2

There is something weighing on his mind right now that possibly he did so that he is trying to find everything he can (if anything) to make you look equal so he doesn't feel bad. I have just had a friend go through something simalar today.

Anyways between me and my wife we are great and have been great but my wife feels the same as you do and doesn't realize that there are some needs that she hasn't fulfilled since before we were married aside from keeping the place tidy. If its like me ande my wife perhaps just a little loving and making him feel like he is sexually wanted. Get a little freaky even though you can always get some. Do the things that you guys did in the past, maybe a little more. Stuff that is taboo works really good too.

Answer 3

wow...sounds like you both need marriage counseling. A relationship shouldn't be one partner always trying to please the other. He seems to never be happy no matter what you do. It seems as though there's more to his feelings than finding faults in everything you do. What could cause him act this way? Could be stress...maybe he's overloaded at work. I wouldn't put so much blame on what your not doing right. Sounds like counseling could help him be more appreciative at the things you do at home. Sometimes it's easier to notice something wrong than it is to point out something good. Maybe he just doesn't realize that he criticizes more than the says thank you for all you do. Maybe you could nicely point out that sometimes it's nice to hear a few kind words since you put so much effort into making him a nice dinner for example. Sometimes men need to have it spelled out for them. They're not very good at reading women. He may just not realize what he's doing. Talk to him and tell him how you feel.

Answer 4

You might want to sit with your husband after dinner and spend some time talking about how you are feeling about him not being satisfied with the things you do.

To me he sounds like he has high expectations for you, but since you are not perfect, you make mistakes. He needs to know that it would be better if he would just say things like: "Thanks for dinner that was good. Thanks for cleaning up the house and doing laundry. Thanks for throwing out the trash." Instead, he is criticizing you on how you do things, which is not good to do. And if he keeps that up, it will destroy your marriage.

Also remind him that before he married you, he married you for who you are. He shouldn't complain to you about how you are doing things that don't meet his expectations. He should compliment you on the things that you have done for him no matter how you've done them. It shouldn't matter how they get done, they go done! (smile)

So, sit down with him. Tell him that you know you are not perfect, and that you know you are still the woman that he laid eyes on and didn't look for perfection then.

Now, if you think that you need to improve on your cooking, (smile) do it because you think you need to. There are ways to find some good recipes like searching online. Before you know it, you will make him happy and it will make you feel good too! If it is just you two in the house, how does it get messy? Tell him that you did your best and it will stay like that. Or, find something else that will make him happy, but maybe after dinner, give him a back or neck massage, he could probably use it if he just got off work.

There are many ways to make him happy! Encourage him to help around the house on the week-ends, now that will sure make you happy too! (smile)

Answer 5

I recommend buying the book "The Five Love Languages." It says one reason why divorces happen is because husband and wife fail to communicate love on the same level. There are 5 ways to receive and give love. Those are words of affirmation, loving touch, spending quality time, doing acts of service, and gifts. Once you two find out how you each receive love the best, you can have a happier marriage because you'll be able to better show the person you care about them.

Answer 6

MAYBE IT IS NOT WHAT YOU ARE DOING BUT WHAT YOU ARE NOT DOING. THERE MIGHT BE SOMETHING GOING ON THAT YOU DO NOT SEE. ALOT OF TIMES WHEN MEN COMPLAIN ABOUT THINGS THAT ARE MESSED UP, IT IS USUALLY BECAUSE THERE IS SOMETHING THAT HE IS HIDING OR FAILING TO TELL YOU. YOU SHOULD TRY ASKING HIM WHAT HIS HIDDEN AGENDA IS. I HAVE BEEN THROUGH RELATIONSHIPS WHERE I HAVE BEEN THE PERFECT MAN, AND STILL NOTHING WOULD MAKE THIS WOMAN HAPPY. COME TO FIND OUT, SHE WAS USING THAT AS A REASON TO GO AND SEE HER FRIENDS AND BE WITH OTHER MEN, SO JUST CHECK THE ENTIRE PICTURE BEFORE YOU START BLAMING YOURSELF. YOU JUST MIGHT BE A PAWN IN HIS MESSED UP PLAN

Answer 7

Talk to him of what you feel. Mildly. Tell him you are not perfect - and he knows that from the start (how can anyone be perfect!?), and you are BOTH in this relationship. If he wants to work this out, it takes the BOTH OF YOU, to smooth the rough edges. And whoever says that relationships are easy!

To make things light girl, humuor him. Sometimes guys notice thier mistakes when you humuor them. Goodluck, dont lose heart!

Answer 8

if you do thing to show him how much you love him and he just puts you down tell him how you feel about the situation and if he steal puts you down you need to take a vacation away from him for about a week that way he will find out what he is missing with out you. However when you come back if he steal does not appreciate you i suggest couples therapy or a separation because you do not deserve to be treated like that. and trust me it will be the best thing you ever did.

Answer 9

Do you remember how you treated that guy that adored you! you know the one that you wish that you like but you just could not. The one that had to have something wrong with him or was weak because he did not see anything wrong with you. I mean their has to be something wrong with him Right? He was willing to settle for you. Maybe that is how your husband feels now that he has everything their has to be something wrong with you. Why else would you settle for him. what I am trying to say is that It is not your problem It is his.

Answer 10

Do you know what his love language is? You are into showing him you love him by doing acts of service. It sound like he feels unloved, so what you are doing isn't what he responds to. There's a great book out there called "The Five Love Languages". You should read it together and learn about each other. You'll learn what each of your love languages is, and how to speak to your mate with that language.

Answer 11

i think you need to stop pressuring yourself to be the great one. communication with him and telling him how you feel about the things you do and maybe an understanding level fromt he both of you will ensure you have a longer and much relationship. marriage is not a contest but purely on two people sharing the same thoughts and understanding the compromises needed to be made. :)