Is it to make him jealous? I don't mean make him think that I'm having an affair - he knows better than that. He is VERY comfortable because we have been together for 18 years, and he knows I am a good woman. I understand that after you have been together for a long time things can get comfortable - but I know things can still be intense too! He gets really into his work and I just want him to get really into me again - even if it's just for a night every now & then. I'm very happy - just want to break up the same old routine we are stuck in!
2007-01-13 16:36:22 · 7 answers · asked by 2mom35 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To think to make him jealous is false.
Be happy with same old routine.
Try to plan few hours spending time together at gym, it is good for both of you that physical activety will effect whole body.
2007-01-13 16:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by Iranian Amigo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want more bedroom action, make an effort for it. but Don't, I repeat, DON'T try to make him jealous. This will NOT lead to ANYTHING good. Because jealousy always leads to mistrust, and mistrust always makes for the rustling of divorce papers.
On the other part, you can't just wait from him to make the change, because frankly, us guys usually love our comfortable rut, because the days just go faster that way. However, if you want to spice things up, you make an effort to instigate it first, then he'll probably do the same a little later in the month, and so on, and so on.
Some ideas would be (if you have any) get the kids out for the day/night on a Friday night and spruce up the house a little and make all the lights low and something leading to the bedroom. Another idea is to book a nice hotel room with some extra money and go there. But, whatever you do, don't immediately jump him right when he gets home, wait at least 30 min, or just let him discover where you are by himself :)
2007-01-14 00:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by Cory W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very small things can make a very big difference. Like a new bedroom makeover. Just new sheets and pillows. Or new panties. Or shave a place you have never shaved before. My husband and I found we love to feed each other fruit. Yeah, I know, kinda goofy but it's very sweet and erotic in a simple way. Very ripe fruit works best. Pears are our favorite.
Simply change something and if it works make it part of what you do often. if it doesn't don't repeat it.
The important thing is to keep trying new things. Don't give up and don't stop. I promise you are on the right track and it works.
2007-01-14 00:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't advise trying to make him jealous. Just a pet peeve of mine.
If you need some ideas you can check out the sites I've listed below. You might find something there. Probably the easiest thing you could do though would be to simply explain to him how you feel. Don't beat around the bush; guys sometimes have a hard time interpreting "signals" and such. Just be direct. He might just need a little nudge to get him going. ;)
Good luck!
2007-01-14 00:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by Digital Haruspex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try finding one of the hobbies he enjoys and do it with him regularly. Select something you enjoy too, at least enough to stick with it. Most men spend time with people who share their hobbies and/or interests. We are draw to the people who are with us during times of enjoyment. As you enjoy being with each other, a new dimension of friendship might develop between you, putting a spark back in your relationship. Bottom line, men gravitate to the people they share their hobbies and leisure time with.
2007-01-14 00:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by pops 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Greet him when he gets home from work stark naked with a rose clenched in between your teeth.
2007-01-14 00:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop yourself.
2007-01-14 00:42:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋