I just got off the phone with a long lost friend I haven't talked to in almost 7 years. It was my fault that our friendship ended, but at one point, her and I had the best friendship anyone can imagine. We were roomates and shared our whole lives with each other. We were never involved in a romantic relationship, just a very intricate friendship. Her and I would exchange our opinions on everything from our relationships to politics to religion and everything in between.
Well, just before Christmas I recieved an e-mail from her telling me that all that was ever needed from me was a simple apology. After apologizing to her, she gave me her phone number and told me to give her a call sometime. Tonight I finally called her and we talked for about 30 minutes. She's supposed to be calling me back shortly, but I'm confused. I just moved about 6 hours away from her, and she's telling me that she would love to get together to catch up and hang out. What should I do?
2007-01-13 16:30:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Should I take a trip down there to visit her, or just continue to talk to her on the phone and see how our friendship rebuilds?
2007-01-13 16:31:31 · update #1
I think that you live 6 hours apart and you need to think about what it is you're really looking for. You won't have a lunch/movie/dinner/hang out buddy because of the distance. I also wouldn't drive all the way...maybe half way. I think you might want to consider your feelings too...it seemed like there was a little something going on underneath the surface for you...Good luck.
2007-01-13 16:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by paddlinglikecrazy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, what are you confused about? Did she know you just moved, then decidedly for this reason to rekindle your friendship? If this is so 7 years of not speaking & 6 hours distance & your apology is asking a bit much. It just depends on how happy you will feel too. I think I would continue to communicate a bit more, and then have a reunion that would celebrate this occaision. I don't know geographically where you both live, but the snow & ice storms are bad here. I'd wait till spring. A few more weeks won't strain your friendship, that's what I'd do.
2007-01-14 01:08:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would continue to talk on the phone then go from there and see if that old connection is still even really there. 30 minutes is not a long phone call at all, i can talk for 10 hrs plus if i want and need to. if you continue to talk for a few months then maybe u 2 can meet up half way and go from there
2007-01-14 00:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do the second choice, that way you can rebuild where you guys left off on the friendship. Plus, it lets you build up trust again between you two.
2007-01-14 00:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by ~carmie~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would continue to talk on the phone a little longer to see how your friendship goes. What are you confused about?
2007-01-14 00:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by shellhiggs07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Correspond in the many ways that are available at the moment.
Save the trip for a celebration of your renewed friendship. Time will tell you when that will be. :)
2007-01-14 00:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Continue to talk on the telephone.
2007-01-14 00:33:38 · answer #7 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋