We have been together for four years and engaged for one. We have been in a long distance relationship for about three years. We are happy and are dealing with the long distance the best we know how. But He has only let a few of his friends know about the engagement, and I don't know why he doesn't tell some of his others. He says he doesn't want people to know his business...am I just over-reacting? What does this mean from a guy’s perspective?
2007-01-13 16:18:35 · 18 answers · asked by white tea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, as long as his best friends know about it. That's all it matters. If I was in his shoes, I wouldn't tell my casual acquaintances because it's none of their business. A girl in my office got engaged and she told us 2 months before her wedding. I wouldn't look too much into it.
2007-01-13 16:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, for being in a long distance relationship for that many years usually they don't work that good. Because if he really loved you that much, he would have moved closer to be with you.
It seems that the ones he hasn't told about the engagement are probably the ones who he really hangs out with. Otherwise, he would have told them. He will tell them when he wants to tell them.
But does it really matter who he's told? What matters is that you two will soon be married. So don't let this go too far with him not telling his other friends about the engagement, or you two will not get married. If you are already over-reacting with this issue, how are you going to react with issues when you are married?
Just let it be, they will probably find out anyway.
2007-01-13 17:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The people that he chose not to tell may issue negativity on a long distance relationship let alone an engagement. He may not want these people to know his business because they may right away want to get in his business.
2007-01-13 16:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think of it is greater suitable than slightly unusual! Being a private guy or woman is a separate situation from not sharing the biggest information of your lifestyles to those closest to you. in case you have not observed the rest extraordinary approximately him (like he does not have close pals, or he's insanely secretive) i might merely write this off as a wierd quirk, i assume. even with the undeniable fact that it is nonetheless extraordinary to me. If he's sufficiently previous to get married, he's sufficiently previous to comprehend that folk evaluate this a great deal and constantly tell those on the edge of them!
2016-12-16 04:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by kull 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One) it is not just a cliche' when said "long distant affairs don't work.". Why? It's WAY too convenient for him to be with other woman, hence not telling anyone who may jeopardize this arrangement. Two) Are YOU happy with this, or is it HE who is happy with it? Again, refer to #1.
It isn't other people that he doesn't want to know, it's the other women. Don't become a DIVORCE statistic...DO NOT MARRY HIM, UNLESS HE IS WILLING TO TELL THE WORLD!!!!!
2007-01-13 16:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, then he is proud of you and wants to tell the world that you are his and he is yours. The long distance relationship is a struggle for most men. We need our woman to be present in order to feel loved unless we have been together for a long time.
2007-01-13 16:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some men and some women do not feel comfortable about telling a lot of people about their love affairs as they see it as a very private thing. They may feel this way even if they are engaged.
I assume that you two will not have a long distance marriage.
2007-01-13 16:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This sounds kind of fishy to me. Most guys are quick to let their buddies, co-workers, etc know when something life changing is going on in their lives. Is he quick to let others know about a new car he bought, a raise he got, a new job promotion, etc??? If so, sounds like you're not on the top of his priority list- better have a talk with him.
2007-01-13 16:25:53 · answer #8 · answered by daddysnurse 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think he's not telling them for a good reason. He's got another girl on the side & doesn't want her to find out about you. He's a jerk, He doesn't want to commit to you. After 4 years, I say its time to move on to someone else. He just gave you that ring to shut you up for a while longer. Sorry! but that is how I see it.
2007-01-13 16:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by SoapFan1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
been there, done that, bought the T-shirt...
are telling me the story of my last relationship? it sounds like it...let me tell you the ending.
Yes, you already know the answer if you gotta ask. he is not that much into the relationship either ..dont you feel like you're the only one trying hard at it.
it's going to end, and you're not the one who is going to leave him...coz you put so much into it...so he will.
sorry
unless...
2007-01-13 16:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋