he keeps on asking me "daddy when does a boy offically become a man" hes 13 so i know i cant just make up some lie help please.
2007-01-13 16:18:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anthony C 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
When he accepts responsibility for his actions. When he respects his possessions and those of others. When he treats his parents, siblings with repect. If he does these now, he is on his way to emotional manhood. The physical will come with time, naturally. His emotional intelligence is the key. There are "men" who still act like they are 10 in this world and think they know what being a man is. Ha.
2007-01-13 16:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him that to the Hebrews, a boy was a man at 13. That in many cultures, a boy becomes a man when he performs a ritual. Don't make up a lie - tell him what you think makes a man.
My poor dear son turned 13 and my dad gave him a poem about becoming a man. A few weeks later, my son was there when my father died unexpectedly, and my son had to become a man, sheparding his younger cousins, comforting me, being strong. Hopefully, you won't have a situation thrust upon you like that.
Encourage your son to think about what it means to be a man. Ask him what he's thinking about the matter. It's a great and meaningful questions, for goodness sakes, share your heart or quest together.
2007-01-14 00:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by t jefferson 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Be honest that being a man isn't just about sexual and physical development. That since he's 13 his body will begin those physical changes soon if they have not already begun. Let him know that even though some appear to develop in just a few short years, that in reality a male doesn't fully develop physically and sexually until he's around 25.
Now is the prime time to teach him that being a man is only partly about sexual and physical developments. That being a man is about treating others with respect. Being respectful of people's differences. Not being violent. That it's about having honor, keeping one's word, learning good work skills now. It's about qualities that are honorable and positive, just as much as it is about his physical development.
2007-01-14 00:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mountain Bear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A boy becomes a man when:
he does the right thing even when there is nobody there to make sure he does the right thing, and
he is willing to help those who need his help, and
when he is a gentleman at all times, and
when he pulls his own weight to take care of his family, and
when he acts courageously even when he is afraid.
“If you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs …If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster…and so hold on when there is nothing in you…Except the Will which says to them: Hold on! …If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, Or walk with kings--nor lose the common touch, If you can fill the unforgiving minute- With sixty seconds' worth of distance run, Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it, And--which is more--you'll be a Man, my son!”
Rudyard Kipling
2007-01-14 00:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by Bud B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh golly gee...when do you think a boy becomes a man?
I have never heard a boy ask such a thing and I have taught school for years and raised a house full of boys...
BTW: a 13 y/o calling his father," Daddy" is NOT what is weird about this question...
2007-01-14 00:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by ronibuni 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him "When he gets a job and pays rent and the bills and pays insurance for a car(being old enough to drive a car)"
That should keep him quiet longer.
Point out that no need to grow up so soon and enjoy being a kid for as long as you can.
So he is asking for some other reason?? Want to knock up the girl down the street - boys can be sluts too -- point that out, and get aids and die
2007-01-14 00:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by ButwhatdoIno? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One who has attained the age of 18 or 21, depending on which country u are living. In most asian countries, the legal age or attain maturity is 21.
2007-01-14 00:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by ben2938 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13.... seems like a good time for you to sit down with your son and have the old "birds and bees" lecture. He is now capable of reproducing himself! You don't want to look back in a few years and wish you had had the talk, because he and his little girldfriend are standing in front of you hanging their heads saying she's pregnant...believe me... if you don't tell them the what, hows and whys...they will get it from their friends (bad versions) and figure out how to do this for themselves. A talk like this, father to son, makes a closer bond. Don't put it off my friend... tell him how he got here...for starters.
2007-01-14 00:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by bflogal77 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there are some very very good responses on ways to approach this topic with your son.
as everyone says you tell him what you think it is to be a man.
do not avoid the topic with him. should bring you too even closer..
btw: what is wrong with a 13yr old calling his father daddy?
i don't see anything wrong with that???
2007-01-14 02:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by Gemini17681 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Son, when you learn the answer to this question, then you will become a man".
2007-01-14 00:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋