My bf and I have been together for two years. I wanted to get married, he never wants to marry. I fully believe in marriage and want to make that commitment with the guy I love. Would it be stupid to give up on my current bf, who I love heaps, and find someone else to love and to marry?
2007-01-13 16:17:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Think of what you are asking....You state specifically that YOU believe in marriage, and that is what YOU want. He does not. Why are you willing to sacrifice YOUR beliefs for someone who does not share those beliefs with you. "Stupid to give up"???? Depends on if you are willing or not to live a life with a man and not share in the union of marriage. Or, to go further, why does he not want to get married? Are there ligitimate reasons? Or, does he just "not want to be tied down"....Either way, if you believe so much in the union of marriage, why would you not want to experience that with someone who believes in it too, and wants to marry YOU.
2007-01-14 02:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked about why you want to get married so badly and why he doesn't? What makes your relationship less committed if you're not married? My husband and I slowly made the decision to get married. He didn't want to and I did (he was recently divorced). I realized that I wanted to get married because I thought that I HAD to, societal pressure, family pressure, etc. We joke that the only difference between being bf/gf and being married is a piece of paper and tax reasons. But really, it's kind of true. We both are athiests so I don't believe that we had to commit ourselves to god or anything. We committed ourselves to each other and that's all that mattered. I think that you should stay in the relationship and talk things out with your b/f. Figure out what you want and if you really would consider giving up the love of your life for a legal document. I wouldn't have.
2007-01-14 06:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by kaliluna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!! GIVE HIM UP!!
Can you imagine if you choose to stay with him, how UN-commited your realtionship would be.
When a man/woman don't want to marry it's saying only 'one'
thing. "I'm my own boss, I'll do what I like when I like, and no one
will ever be my equal'.
Marriage takes a leap of commitment, allowing the equality of 'both' parties to form a solid relationship. It also says to each other, I will legally and publically show everyone that YOU are
my wife/husband, and I proudly accept you as my equal.
Now we are one.!!
Those who refrain from, or avoid marriage do not want someone else gf/bf, to be their #1, because they believe 'they' are #1.
This is a fact!!
2007-01-14 01:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this is not stupid... If he does not want to commit and marry you should move on.... Do not stay in a dead relationship that will never turn into marriage.
2007-01-14 00:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having sex with him and/or shacked up with him why would he want to marry you? He is getting everything out of the relationship he wants. If this is what you want to be the rest of your life, stay with him. If not, get out before you waste anymore time on this self-centered, using you, waiting for something better to come along guy.
2007-01-14 00:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to give him a chioce and no matter what if your dream is to get married then go out there and do it. Sounds like b/f might be afraid of that big commitment.
2007-01-14 00:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by Babie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that adamant about getting married, then by all means leave the man you love and have devoted several years of your life to for something that has no guarantee. I wouldn't.
2007-01-14 00:41:11 · answer #7 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You aren't being stupid. Tell him you love him but marriage is important to your happiness. Don't jump right into another relationship. Try being alone for awhile.
2007-01-14 01:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by peggy j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
y not wait a bit longer he might change his mind in a few year if u really love him then you will stay with him no matter what marriage isn't every thing maybe hes just not ready yet
2007-01-14 00:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by rk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be silly he might have big commitment troubles( not that thats a bad thing). i have been waiting for my bf to ask for 6 years . but i wouldnt give him up for the world if you love him dont rush him it will happen if it's ment to be!! good luck my friend.
2007-01-14 00:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋