A few days ago this guy who I really like asked me out, but my best friend also realy likes this guy. My other friend told me that if I choose to further my relationship with this guy, I would have to tell my friend who likes him aswell, but how do I tell her without her hating me or freaking out? Is that even possible?
2007-01-13 16:11:57 · 15 answers · asked by _clo_ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if you guys have a real friendship, you'll both get through it. you just have to be honest. i dont think you can really tell her the truth without making her mad. but she'll get over it hopefully. but if theres a bigger problem, chicks before d!cks!
2007-01-13 16:22:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best Policy...no matter what, and you had better approach her before anyone else does, because then she will have more to be defensive about. After all who likes to look like the last Fool on the block to learn the "gossip". Plus she was your friend before he was. He had better be worth it, if you know what I mean??
In High School I shared boyfriends with other friends of mine. No big deal. We all did it. Of coarse, when I was in HS, we were limited as far as sex went. Once you did anything risky, you were ruined for the rest of your life (in school). I've heard things have changed a bit...too bad. But, seriously just take a deep breath and ask her to meet you at the library, where you can't yell loud, and tell her. That's what I did, or we all did. No big deal!
2007-01-13 16:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE! it's not possible, only if she's nice then she'll say it's ok but really how would you feel? Don"t go out with him!!! Whatever you do don't, you guys won't be close best friends anymore if u both really like this guy and plus it would be really awakward if you three were to hang out together you really couldn't flirt or do couple things with your best friend there sometimes. And remember guys r like buses they come and go. But it's up to you.
Quote from One Tree Hill:
"There are moments in our lives when we find ourselves at a crossroads. The choices we make in those moments can define the rest of our days.
And, of course when faced with the unknown, most of us prefer to turn around and go back.
There are moments in our lives when we find ourselves at a crossroads."
So i'm bettin you've seen others go through this problem before whether from a movie or real life. Wat good has it ever brung?
2007-01-13 16:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by L.A. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with her tell her that he asked you out but you want to know if she is going to be ok with it as she is your best friend and like him to. Always remember you can never replace a true best friend but boyfriends can come and go all the time
2007-01-13 16:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by rk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are worth more than boys. My story, happened twice. 1st. My friend like this guy, but you could tell he just wanted to be friends. We all hung out together and one night he told me he liked me. I told him she liked him and that I couldn't do that to her, I never told her of that. Second story, a friend was dating a guy, they went to junior prom together, the next day we went to an amusement park, a few weeks later this guy came into my work, I thought nothing of it because we seemed to be friends, but he went on to tell me he realized at the park that he liked me. I guess I don't think you should mess with your friends men. I told my friend, she didn't disown me, I could tell she was mad, mostly because she liked him, but she was glad that I told her, and I think most of all it showed her what kind of friend I was. Stick by your friend.
2007-01-13 16:24:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your best friend, I would not go out with the guy. Guys come and go, but best friends are forever.
2007-01-13 16:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the guy. It's just one innocent little date, and if your friend freaks out about it, well then that's just her problem, not yours.
2007-01-13 16:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by Crissy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is really your friend you will be honest. many a good friendship has been ruined over a temporary piece of meat. Who loves you?
2007-01-13 16:15:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he really worth it? How would you feel if she did that to you? Once you can honestly answer that to yourself, you'll know the answer. What's the golden rule? Oh yeah, treat others as you want to be treated :~) Remember, God loves you!
2007-01-13 16:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by Sammyangel28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep your friend, don't even go out with this guy.
2007-01-13 16:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by leahcutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋