I am educated ( I have masters degree) but he has only high school diploma. But he is considerate, very understading and experienced in life. I am sure that I will have no problem with him after marriage but the bad part is our age difference which doesn't allow me to have any special feeling towards him. He really loves me and I can't say him that I don't. Please tell me is age difference much important? To be honest he is not much goodlooking either.
I would be gratefull if you help me in this
2007-01-13 16:08:06 · 12 answers · asked by sindy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems that you are not much in love with hum, otherwise you wouldn't be asking about it, nor you would be making remarks about his education, age difference, and looks. My advice is, ask yourself what would you like to be doing 10 yrs. from now? And with whom? How is that person that you picture in your mind/heart? You must answer these questions with total honesty. Perhaps you are still too young to settle, people mature at different ages. May be you need to travel, meet new people, different places, different cultures, etc. Life is beautiful, and very rewarding when you share it with the person that you love. I got married at 25, and despite tribulations and difficulties, I wouldn't change any one day of those 12 years we have been married.
the most important thing when making a life long decision as this one is be totally honest to yourself, Is this the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? Only YOU have the answer.
Good luck, much happiness & God Bless.
2007-01-13 16:25:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age doesn't make a difference but if you marry him this marriage is doomed. You have not respect for him and really don't love him like a woman loves a man that she wants to spend her life with, you need to let him go and find someone more I guess you call it in his class because the way you talk you seem to think that you are way above him and you should never marry anyone thinking your better than they are, sorry that is the way I see it.
2007-01-13 16:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be sure, I can tell you that you don't love him. because you said 1) you don't have any special feeling towards him, 2) You are scared that your age difference would affect your life, 3) He is not much good looking guy. After all these, I can say you don't like him and please you don't cheat him..better tell him honestly your feeling on him and make a good decision.
2007-01-13 17:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by sl_mgr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your ages 13 years really doesn't matter that much but it seems you don't have the same feelings for him that he does. It seems like his looks make a difference to you or you wouldn't think of him not being handsome. If you honestly love someone you don't consider their looks at all. I would let go of him so he can find someone that would love him and you will find the one that's right for you.
2007-01-13 16:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by prarierosebud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you look at all the issues, positive and negative.
Do the positive or positive win out? These differences could become strong negataive forces down the road. Give each issue
your very strong consideration. I believe you will then come to the best solution/answer.
2007-01-13 16:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not attracted to him or have feelings for him. That just stay friends. Be honest and tell him how you feel. It will hurt but he will get over it. I went through that before when a girl told me she loved me but I just like her as a friend.
2007-01-13 16:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go.You will break his heart if you marry him and then he finds out your living a lie.You need someone who you have those special feelings for.Just remember, its better to hurt someone honestly than to mislead them with lies.He will respect you in the end.
2007-01-13 17:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by Gracie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, then the age doesn't matter, but your heart has't the last decision.
2007-01-13 16:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by negus1970 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't tell him that you love him then dump him but if you do have feelings for him then age doesn't matter
2007-01-13 16:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by megan p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know age does not matter, the question is do you love him?It seems you dont love him, why accepting him!?!
2007-01-13 16:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋