To make this as short & sweet as possible, here's the rundown: My husband's cousin broke up with his girlfriend of 5+ years 3 weeks ago. She is loved by everyone in the family, and from what I understand, the reason for the break up is ridiculous. She is heart-broken and is struggling with many dilemnas, including just where she fits into our family now...she stood as my son's Godmother.
Well, my cousin is coming over to take my kids to a birthday party, and he is bringing his "rebound" girl with him. I am at a loss as to what to do or say. I feel like I will be adding to the ex-girlfriend's hurt if she were to find out. I love her & don't want to alienate her. At the same time, I don't want my cousin to feel that I am choosing "water" over "blood". How can I be courteous to this new girl, yet stand my ground without feeling like I am betraying two people (one or the other) I deeply care about?
2007-01-13 16:07:45 · 5 answers · asked by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Showing kindness to his new girlfriend is not your "endorsement" to her as the new "girlfriend", its just being kind to her as a person. You can let the old girlfriend know that she is still going to be your friend just like always. You don't have to take sides. Like them both. If your brother brings it up to you, let him know how you feel about things and that you are not going to push the old girlfriend out just because he doesn't like her any more. Hope this helps.:)
2007-01-13 16:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you have a problem??? maybe ring her and let her know that her ex is bringing this girl along and tell her the reason you are telling her is so she wont get upset. let her know that you are left with this problem and you dont wish to take sides. and also talk to the guy and let him know the same you dont want to be made the meat in the sandwich. you have the right to to stick up for this girl if you feel she has been hard done by.. hope things go well good luck...
2007-01-14 00:16:22 · answer #2 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need to take anyone side, he was with her and they are
not together anymore, you just need to be nice to whoever he
bring to the house, just be your self. and let natural take it
course. it will work out in the end. dont make trouble if you dont
have to.
2007-01-14 00:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be polite to her.. You don't have to kiss her *** just because she's the rebound girl. Be the bigger person.
2007-01-14 00:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by Kristi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cannot hurt anyone , if you act like you don't know anything . just don't speak about anything but tea , and your kids . Good Luck
2007-01-14 01:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋