Why is it so hard for abused women to leave their abusive spouse?

Answer 1

Because they feel that he's as good as it gets.

They believe no one else "better" will come along.
But in fact, every day they are with him is every day they are missing out on someone they truly deserve.

Answer 2

I tell you why most of the time, I'm speaking by experience, you are beat down and they have so scared of them that you see no way out. They tell you if you ever call the cops they'll beat you to death and if you leave their kill you and your children and if your family gets involved they kill them also. You become brainwashed, you never tell anyone what is going on at home, you go to work with black eyes and bruises and you always think up an excuse of what happened to you. I was very young and I use to wish that I could buy some leeches , where they could suck the blood that had my eyes black, that how stupid I was just plain ignorant. I prayed every night that he would find else some one and I guess God answered my prayers because he did, and the day my divorce was granted I was the happiest woman in the whole world, that's my story of why I didn't leave.

Answer 3

I was in a very abusive relationship for six months. This relationship consisted of being called fat stupid ugly and even physically pushed around. I got used for my money and was treated horribly besides the name calling and the pushing around..He in the end ripped me off by donig a bank fraud for 1500 and also destroyed my things and my computer and was a serious all out psychopath.

The reason that I stayed was that he was a rebound from a long term relationship that left me heart broken and it was better to have companionship with someone who was nice half the time then none at all.

Another reason is that it was exciting to me. I liked the drama I thrived on it. (Sickening I know)

Another major reason was fear...he would threaten me and knew where I lived and when I tried to kick him out he would not go even when the police arrived.

Another reason was the make up sex...(honeymoon abuse I guess)

It was stupid but those are the reasons I stayed. I still question myself for those months I stayed but when I had the strength to get rid of him the fear would set in. (seriously mentally imbalanced with a criminal record a mile long).

Answer 4

sometimes they are afraid that if they try to leave he will hurt them. sometimes they feel like they can't make it without them. sometimes they believe him when he says that he will never do it again or that he will change. Whatever the reason is you can do it. They have a place that you can call, the battered womens shelter. They can help you. If he works plan a day when he is at work and have a lot of friends there to help you take whatever you want that belongs to you and go. If you do not have a place call the battered womens shelter and they will help you. Never feel like you have to stay with someone you don't go get help now.

Answer 5

Because if kids are involved, they want to stay with the abused husband rather than wanting to get their kids out so they can be in a safe place. Because the wife doesn't have any income and he is the one working. Because the wife is living in fear to leave in case he wants to do something terrible to her.

Because she thinks she can change him, but you can't change the person, they have to want to change themself. Because maybe he threaten her if she were to leave.

Because the wife says that she still loves him and that she doesn't want to leave.

Or, the wife is in denial thinking that there is nothing wrong with being abused by an abusive husband.

Being in denial is why.

Answer 6

Gosh! this is such s huge subject and involves so mcuh! emotional, physical, amn you name it. Women do it for all the wrong reasons. They kids, what will people say, can't make it on own, gosh it just goes on and on..... for whatever reason it isn't a good enough reason. They only reason you need is the fact that you need to get yourself and your kids (if any) out of that situation ASAP!!! My mom always had the excuse of "I did for you all" well you know I would have been so much more grateful had she done for us and just gotten out. It would so have avoided so much emtional "hell" and that is the only word that fits.
If you are in this situation PLEASE
God Be with you!

Answer 7

FEAR!!
And not only fear of him catching you leaving, or trying to stop you
leaving him.
There is also a lot of fear of 'what do I do now', 'where do I go',
'What if I can't find a job' etc, etc.
There is tremendous fear in a woman who is abused.
Abuse causes most women to look at themselves as worthless.
It makes them feel as though they are some how to blame.
IF' you are abused you 'MUST' leave now!!
Abuse only gets worse, and it CAN lead to murder!!

Answer 8

Because this is what they are used to and because they are scared and have low self esteems and feel this is all they deserve... Sad part is they usually dont get out in time and either end up almost dead or dead and tragedy usually happens. Very sad indeed. They also dont know all the options of getting out and away from it either.

Answer 9

I would expect for a variety of reasons. A couple of which could be fear, and lack of self esteem. But only one who has walked in those shoes can offer the fitting answer.

Answer 10

It's probably fear!

The waste of life has scared them to the point of being frozen in fear!