I've never gone a date before and I think it's about time for me to start dating. Problem is, I just turned 19 so not too many places that I can get into, being that I'm attracted to a Man that's 2-5 years older than me. I have no clue on proper dating etiquette, meaning how to look like a mature female w/o trying to hard. I'm always so impressed when I see a Lady dressed beautifully but naturally being escorted by a well dressed Gentleman. It makes me feel like something is missing in my life. I know this is a completely random question, but I would love some advice from Men and Women from all over the world. I want to know how to properly mingle w/ a mate face to face w/o being overly talkative or awkward. And I'm into dating outside of my Race as well as my own race (I'm a Black Female), so advice on interracial dating would be greatly appreciated as well. Thanks!!!!
2007-01-13 15:53:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Sorry, I don't want anyone to get the wrong idea or anything. I would NEVER change my personality or anything. I'm just VERY technical and anal when it comes to things that are new to me. I think too much w/ it and that's my problem. I was just hoping that someone could maybe shine light on some things that should or shouldn't be done that maybe I've yet to hear about. Plus, the right places to go and socialize so that I CAN find someone to ask me out... LOL
2007-01-13 16:03:47 · update #1
You seem to be intelligent, which means you are probably witty and funny too.
Dress in something that is appropriate and something you also feel sexy and comfortable in. If you are not familiar or happy in high heels, give them a miss. Better to be relaxed and comfy. Style is all about being relaxed with you and your image. If you can do that, that you will be the glam one my friend.
A great smile and good attitude will get you just about everywhere. And be honest. If he is going to take you somewhere that is not for you, say so and suggest something else.
If you are consuming anything, do it in moderation, especially with regards to any sort of drugs (that includes alcohol my dear).
If you go out for food, don't be afraid to eat. A lot of guys don't see the point taking a girl out to dinner if all she is going to eat is a small green salad. heh, an appetite is a good thing, but again, moderation.
Good luck. I am sure any boy who is lucky enough to get your attention will be thanking his lucky stars and would be proud to be seen with you. :)
2007-01-13 16:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by darklydrawl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and be yourself. I'm an 18 year old dude and I guess I've gone on like 7 dates with a 19 year old girl that I met over the Internet a couple months ago. My first date with her was basically my second date ever so I can relate to your situation. If it helps don't think of it like a date just think of it like going to hang out and do some stuff. The akwardness and being overtalkative will start going away once you start spending time with them. The first date I had with her was a little akward and we were both pretty quiet then it got easier and more comfortable as things went on. Don't try to be somebody that you're not and just take things slow and easy. Don't act like things are more important than they are and maintain a realistic assessment of the relationship.
2007-01-13 16:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by Frank Edwards 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dress simply, classically, comfortably, and with a minimum of fussy details. Don't go overboard on fancy hairstyles, but at the same time be groomed and clean. Smile, be pleasant, be a friend, listen to what he's saying.
Save anything physical until you're much better acquainted, including holding hands or kissing. Let there be something for you both to look forward to... a little mystery and suspense is important.
If you're concerned about not being overly talkative, it might be good to start out with a group date... several people going out for supper after work, or to a movie. That way the conversational "ball" isnt' always in your court or his... it's less awkward in a group and easier to just be yourself.
Keep your ears open to little clues which help prevent problems, such as if he says "going dutch" (you pay your own way), or "my treat" (he pays).
Enjoy being with him. Be yourself and be happy.
2007-01-13 16:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by Mmerobin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, all you have to do is think ahead a few years to the possible outcome of this date, i.e. marriage, and who you would want your husband to see you as. That means being yourself, better for him to get accustomed to you now and see the real you than to find out that you tried to be someone you're not. Have fun, that's the reason you're dating, marriage is the same way!
2007-01-13 16:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by ccrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to get some coaching in the self esteem
department. Remember if you don't know what to wear you
can always wear jeans with a nice low cut sweater and jewelry
along with high heels. Women can usually get away wearing
this most places.
2007-01-13 16:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very nice black chick that i went out with 10 years ago asked about this the first time we went out, and she dressed...dressy casual, if that means anything to you...whatever you end up wearing, be confident, and pretend that you are dressed EXACTLY like you meant to for the occaision....good luck
2007-01-13 16:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by gary d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of it is common sense. Dress appropriately for the place you're going to. You sound like a nice and bright person, so just be yourself, and you can't go wrong.
2007-01-13 15:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS LIKE U R A BRIGHT YOUNG LADY BE COOL AND DONT PUT ON AIRS GOOD LUCK
2007-01-13 16:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by RRRRRRRR 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask where youre going before picking out clothes..apparently he hasnt asked yet....wait till that happens..
2007-01-13 15:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋