Since I had an episode of mania in my bipolar depression cycle about 5 years ago when I said some mean things, he doesn't seem to be interested in intamacy. We had to start sleeping in separate rooms because I snore. It would keep him awake and he would wake me up to tell me I was snoring. Neither of us were getting enough sleep, so we separated. I've heard that could be good if you can make "dates", but it doesn't ever seem to work out that way. I quess I just wish we could be more than friends.
2007-01-13 15:47:16 · 12 answers · asked by dialysisrn2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's some story---sounds like you need to stop thinking about it and give it some time. You can't constantly be thinking of this and wishing that it could be different. Lots and lots of people fall out of love. Give it time and maybe you can reignite that spark. You need to forget the past and work on the future. find stuff to do, be proud of your daily accomplishments. Be nice, smile, maybe redo the hair and buy some new clothes--reinvent yourself if you can. Just get past it and get on with your life. I think,in time, he will notice the new you and start asking for dates on his own. JUST DO NOT RUSH IT.....BE COOL. Send him flowers---what a surprise--just say "how are you" on the card. Keep it all nice and easy---no pressure and no demands. I'll bet he's going to be stirring inside after some creative ways of making contact---if not--you tried and you can't do any better than that. Good luck and I'm hoping for the best for you.
2007-01-13 15:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship things happen wherein you say things that you don't mean but if this is the problem then you should communicate about this. Remember 2 things in a relationship communication and respect...If you don't have either i don't think you are in a relationship. If you say you are great friends than it would not be hard for both of you to talk about this and settle it once and for all to keep those flames alive...
Snoring id grounds for divorce if we go by the book, but i don't think you are divorcing, right?
Before you can date each other, i believe you should settle whatever issues in the past that is underneath the present situation...Talk it out..remember it takes 2 to make a relationship work and it takes 2 to make it go separate ways...take care..
2007-01-13 23:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by pinky c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey make it clear to him thats what you need.Life is so short and so hard enough that we have to live with so many difficult things and you living with bipolar know that already.You love him?Then you deserve to be loved back you made mistakes I'm sure he has I have ,we all have thats why live here and not at the right hand of God, ya know what I mean ?27 years is along time and you have to dig deep inside your soul to find what made you guys click.The thing that made him fall in love with you ,you gotta bring that back out and discover new things as well.Do me a favor ok,maybe I'm old fashioned and I'm not that old.Love,being loved is so rare and special.People now take other people for granted they use the love word so fluently-Just do whatever you can BUT if he doesn't treat you with good vibes back or disrespects you in any way uhah no way ok.Don't get down this is just God telling you it ain't meant to be.
2007-01-14 00:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by pookie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling and help for your marriage and relationship and see if you can fall in live with each other all over again.... Try dating and doing fun things together. I feel that there is still hope for your marriage it will just take time is all.... you also can see a medical doctor about your snoring and also try using breathe right strips as this will open up your passages and you should not snore as much that way.
2007-01-13 23:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we had to sleep in different rooms too due to my snoring.. but i went to the dr and did the sleep test and found out my problem. the biggest reason i was snoring and so loud is because i was not getting enough air in me. i was tired and had headaches and was run down.. i would quit breathing over 8 times a hour. they put me on the CPAP machine and i sleep like a baby and no more snoring..you cant snore due to its blowing air down your nose and into lungs.. i wake up no more headaches not as tired and its quiet at night again.. so i would see dr about it.. because even if you move on to new man or relationship you will still have this problem.. once that solved then he would have to find different reason for it not to work out.. good luck.
2007-01-14 00:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does he feel about the situation? You might be surprised, but he may be feeling the same way. You will never know unless you ask.
I would suggest counseling, but if you don't think the breech is that wide, you might consider taking a vacation together. Some time alone (in the SAME room) away from the sink full of dishes and the lawn that needs mowing might be a way to break out of your current routine and get out of you rut.
2007-01-14 00:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Breathe-right strips are great for stopping snoring. They look a little silly but they work. Are you sure he's not finding someone else to take care of his needs? You may want to just talk to him about this. Ask him what he'd like to do, Ask him about his fantasies. Men respond to visual stimulation. Make sure he's not going places he shouldn't on the internet. Get a porn filter on your internet connection if you need to. You have to talk to each other. Since you are best friends, it shouldn't be too hard.
2007-01-14 00:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you two need counseling! I am sorry about the whole thing and it is awesome to be best buds with your hubby but you are married. Whatever happened in the past has really affected your relationship and now needs immediate attention. seek professional help before it is too late.
God Bless!
2007-01-13 23:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by cowgirl! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not totally over. Go to counseling... you cant expect things to continue going exactly as they were from before the episode... If you pinpointed it as that being the time and the reason, talk to him about it.
2007-01-13 23:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's totally over. Sorry.
2007-01-13 23:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋