I am a 24 year's old woman who is going through divorce and i need advice from anyone to make it as civilized as possible. Husband is 34 and is not to be trusted in any financial issues.... Any advices on what to do , what to ask for, what no to do, what to be careful about?>Thank you all
2007-01-13 15:42:41 · 14 answers · asked by Reen D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Number one thing is get a good attorney. Number two thing is don't believe anything unless they put it in writing. Number three thing is keep on smiling!
2007-01-13 15:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is never civilized. Sorry to tell u that. Try to keep your cool. In court everything has to be divided equal. If ya'll can't agree on what each should have then the judge will order everything be sold and the money split equally. If you have any children make sure he pays the right amout of child support, and don't talk bad about him cause even when u think they are not listening they are. If he can't be trusted about financial issues don't trust him about anything. He will probably say a lot of bad things about u in court. Believe me it will get nasty if he does not get everything his way. I know this is a hard time for you. It sounds like u still love him, but don't let this get u down. Think of it as his loss. What ever u do, do everything u can to protect the kids if u have any. You seem to be a very good person. Don't let him make u think u are not. From what u say he is not worthy of your love. Soon this will all be over. When it is pick yourself up and get out and enjoy life. I wish u all the best. Take care of yourself and don't worry too much. I am recently divorced and I promise life will get better. It just takes time. May God bless you, and when u get to feeling down just talk to him u will feel better.
2007-01-13 16:07:18 · answer #2 · answered by Shery W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Don't talk with him unless a friend or lawyer is with you.
2. Don't let him try to frighten you
3. If possible, get a good lawyer.
4. Save all the money you can- and don't worry about furniture,cars etc.-it is all replaceable and has memories attached to them anyway.
5. Start over and resist the urge to jump into another relationship because that makes matters worse- for you-
6. eat- not too much and not too little
7. Don't live beyond your means- you are now on your own
2007-01-13 16:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by Iteachdailey4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First- get a lawyer. Attorneys know the laws and the loopholes, so be sure you have one on your side.
Secondly, have the assets frozen (a usual practice when the divorce papers are first signed) that way no one can liquidate any property or take money belonging to the other.
Be sure you have a lawyer that will help you get the half you deserve. Good Luck!!!
2007-01-13 16:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by daddysnurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a lawyer. Tell the lawyer what both of you have/own. In particular anything you owned prior to the marriage. He will tell you what your entitled to. If it's so bad your afraid things might start disappearing before settlement agreements are made, tell your lawyer you need a restraining order. If your husband cannot be trusted in any financial issues. Don't talk to him, talk to his lawyer, or better yet, let your lawyer talk to his. Good luck.
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2016-05-17 07:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by omar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are seeking advice make sure is from a good lawyer...depending where you live ...your husband should be paying for your lawyer, that's if you don't work and depend on him only.
Don't talk to him or any of his representative unless you think a reconciliation is possible. Try not to go out or see people that are not in your daily circle and if you have children think what's best for them not for you.
2007-01-13 15:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by NikkiBE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be civil about it and find a good lawyer to help you through this... You may also want to go to a divorce recovery workshop at a local church that may offer that and get help that way too!
2007-01-13 15:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a good lawyer. As for what to be careful of, well, everything. Try to be civil, but watch out for any way the he can get the best of you. Good luck.
2007-01-13 15:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by MAD MEL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would go see a counselor and talk to the counselor about every thing that is going on that would be good cause she/he can walk you through every thing and make you feel better
2007-01-13 15:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋