How can i get over my fear of speaking in public? It's at a point where i cant even read in front of my class at school. I get soooo nervous i feel like i'm going to throw up, then my voice studders really bad, and my face looks as red as a tomato, literally! How can i get over this!!
2007-01-13 15:11:43 · 27 answers · asked by ? 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
wow!
that is great that you want to get over your problem of speaking in public. you cant read in front of your class at school. you get nervous and feel like your going to throw up and your voice studders , and your face looks as red as a tomato.
well i will give you the short answer. There is no getting over it. That is how you are. There are two kinds of people in this world the ones who talk in front of people and the ones that avoid it.
The mistaken idea that people have is that the people who speak in front of people are not scared or sick to their stomach. Because maybe they look confident or something.
That is not true. ask them.
If you want to be one of those people in front of groups - there is only one way up and this is experiencing the fear and going up anyway.
I know it is tough and scary!! Man it is that way for me every time but i raise my hand and go up!! I turn red..i say stupid s h i t and feel dumb for the rest of the night or day but i keep going up - the more i go up the more i know myself as one of the a s s h o l e s at the front instead of as one of the a s s h o l e s hiding in his chair.
U R great. You can do it girl!
and EvilAngel is just being her stupid bizzare a s s h o l e self, ignore that b e e Y O T C H ... nobody needs to take "valium" to live a fully self expressed amazing risk taking life.
2007-01-14 09:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by lowroad 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to think of what the particular aspect of public speaking is that makes you nervous. Do you think they won't agree with what you have to say...do you think you will misspeak...do you think they will think you're stupid...
Once you realize what in particular you are worried about, then ask yourself "so what?" If they disagree, then they disagree. It is no big deal, people disagree all of the time. If you misspeak and trip over your own tongue, then so what? They'll maybe laugh a little bit, and then forget about it. Then the next person will do the same thing, and nobody will remember. And even if they do remember the incident than so what? It's not like they will come after you with pitchforks or refuse to speak to you. If they think you're dumb then so what? I'm sure they do dumb stuff all of the time!
It's all about realizing that the whatever you're so afraid of happening isn't nearly as bad as torturing yourself the way you are, and if anything bad happens everyone will have forgotten about it by the time it is the next person's turn. Volunteering to go first when your class needs to read something would probably help you out. Trust me, it is a prime slot to get.
2007-01-13 15:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by hoktauri 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok.
It is normal to be nervous but not that nervous. It is something you will have to learn to live with and maybe when you get older you can see if the newer anxiety drugs might work for you.
As a student and being younger it is really important to be careful if you decide to take these drugs prescribed by the doctor.
I am a piano player and have always had the same problem since I was in grade school.
The doctors have told me there is medication to overcome this anxiety so I can preform in public. It is specifically for public speaking and performance- but I opted not to take the drugs and don't play in public.
2007-01-13 15:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by Bobyns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read in public more.
Some might even suggest doing something that would make you feel completely and fulling ridiculed or selfconscious, not any where near you home town, or where you live daily, but a completely foreign place, it allows to experience the worst that could happen in a situation you will not have to deal with it again. The next time you are faced with those types of emotions you will know the worst that could happen already, and you will not be so fearful, Because you already know that "you can deal with it"
2007-01-13 15:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by Akshun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start practicing speaking to a person who wants to help you and is interested enough to share their time. If no one fits the bill, then YOU get interested in you and practice in the mirror, even if you have to get dressed up!! It's worth it because it's not just school. Your life will have moments, at weddings, or at your job, or whatever, when you will suddenly be asked to speak. So practice until you have it like you want it!! Hey, I have one for you, made this up myself just now: Practice Makes Perfect!! Whaduya think?? Honey, remember that no one knows what you really feel until you tell them. They can't possibly know just how nervous you really are. Besides, they are worrying about having to do it themselves!! (Wisdom My Child) Good Luck!! @8=)
2007-01-13 16:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eiiy! You ask *the ultimate question.*
AS A TOASTMASTER, this same scenario is posed and easily answered in each meeting.
What is commonly the answer is to simply BITE THE BULLET. - (Step 1.)ADMIT that you recognise this.
Now that you admit it; (Step 2.) RESOLVE to overcome it.
(Step 3.) Attend the most recognised self-help organization in the world.
TOASTMASTERS INTERNATIONAL is a globally-recognised organization that helps those closet-ridden people who have such a quality of ideas to get out (of the closet) and SPEAK OUT.
That website is www.toastmasters.org I am sure you can find a local club that meets nearby you at a schedule that fits yours.
I am willing to help you on your escape from your closet, if I may be of assistance.
GOOD LUCK!
~Charles van Blommestein ATM-S CL
Natural Gassers Toastmasters Club
Club 1875 - District 44
Club VP Membership
2007-01-13 15:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice practice practice. Put yourself in public speaking roles all the time and it will become second nature. Pick out three people in the crowd to talk to and speak to the left to one, to the middle to one and to the right to one more. Stay confident and practice in front of a mirror so you know that you are doing the right facial expressions and so forth. Also, take your time and breathe. That is always overlooked and you HAVE to do that. Breathe...breathe....talk deliberately and slowly.
2007-01-13 15:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by fade_this_rally 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All it took for me was one time of speaking to a group of people that were uneducated in the subject matter I was discussing. That seemed to help, but still is no fun! Good Luck!
2007-01-13 15:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by Lemme tell ya... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice.
2007-01-13 15:14:27 · answer #9 · answered by Curious George 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start off with speaking up more in smaller groups then build from there. get involved with a club or something at school to get a group larger then your friend base. ask random people questions...like directions or where a good place to eat is in that part of town. eventually you won't care who you are talking to.
2007-01-13 15:16:20 · answer #10 · answered by Iwant2getfree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋