my first love and i have a child together, but the problem is that two months into my pregnancy he ended our relationship and informed me that he was gay. now i wasnt upset about his sexuality but i was upset due to the fact that he knew he was like this before our relationship, he was the one who was so insistant on having a child with me, then he turns around and becomes a dead beat dad 6 months after the child was born. our child is now going on 12 yrs old with very spiratic contac from his father giving my child mixed emotions and false hopes on a relationship. he never pays child support so would i be wrong for keeping my child away from his dad. my child says he doesnt care what i do but i still think i may be jumping the gun by doing this. just because his father is gay does not mean he is out of his obligations as a father, but since he hasnt taken them on or seems to want to should i handle my business or what?
2007-01-13 15:11:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It has nothing to do with his sexual preference. If he is a "Deadbeat" dad, that is the reason to take him to court for sole custody. Bringing up the fact that he is gay would just be something to make a jab at him. If he doesnt see the kid, doesnt help with bills, or anything that is just a normal "deadbeat" dad. Homosexuality has no relevance. However if your child has questions in the future, be honest with him/her, and be fair towards the father when it comes to questions about him, his sexuality.
2007-01-13 15:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go girl.....no just because he is gay does not exempt him from his obligation...if you want child support from him then press the issue with support enforcement...if you do not wish him to be involved in your son's life which is is shady at best a father...then ask him to do what is best for all of you tell him to give up his rights and then you will all be happy!!! but no I don't think that is wrong....even if he were straight and he wasn't a good father which he isn't being then I would ask him to give up his rights and that he is just hurting your son in the long run being a crappy father anyway!!! better for all of you if he would just go away! A boy need a father yes...but he needs one that he can count on.....not a father that comes by when he feels like it...I hope this helps hun!!!
2007-01-13 15:45:06 · answer #2 · answered by Tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd contact a lawyer about back child support first!
Gay or straight, if an absent parent can't be bothered to actually be an active part of a child's like, yes, I believe their parental rights should be terminated so that you and your child can move forward with your lives.
You never know, you may find a partner who would like to legally adopt your daughter and actually be her parent. Don't let your ex drag you down! Don't become dependent upon something you know you'll never get from him.
His sexual orientation has NOTHING to do with this at all.
It's simply that he's a jerk and emotionally abusing you and your child...and you're letting him.
2007-01-13 16:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that before you "jump the gun " you should talk to his father and see what the hell is going on. I don't think that it's the gay thing that's keeping him form his son I just think it's a male thing. But either way it doesn't give him the right to neglect his son. See if you can get him into calling more often and try to progress from there. Also see if he'll go the therepy. It worked for my dad, and now that my dad has gotten things worked out for him it's made our relationship stronger.
2007-01-13 15:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by enharmonicgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO, he needs to either provide for the child he helped create, or he shouldn't be considered a parent at all, including legally. Also, think about what would happen if you did ask him to give up his parental rights. It could turn into a nasty mess for you, the father, and the child. Custody battles can turn really ugly *sometimes.*
2007-01-13 18:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my daughter's biological father, though we were in a relationship for 7 years.
The fact that he is gay should not even be brought up, and you should contact an attorney for the best legal advice. In my state, I was told I would have to be married and the spouse want to adopt my daughter before the F.O.B's rights could be terminated. Which pissed me off to no end because what right does the state have to FORCE me to get married. Regardless, contact an attorney, its your best bet. :)
2007-01-13 17:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by lunartic5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If reoles were reversed how would you feel if the same were done to you, regardless of the fact of him being gay or not paying you or not is irrelevant a child has the right to know the parent's both of them. it really should be up to the child.
2007-01-13 15:19:34 · answer #7 · answered by chuckleslovesjesus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it does not matter what your ex is, other then father of your child. AND DEADbeat dad . If he is not paying child support as ordered by a court, then he should not have visitation rights. GAY STRAIGHT,BI, ASEXUAL, OR WHATEVER.
2007-01-13 17:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by JUSTIN C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him the option...pay child support and visit him regularly or lose your rights. if he cares enough than he'll make more of an effort if not than obviously hes not a good father and you should have the right to.
2007-01-13 15:23:22 · answer #9 · answered by its all the same to me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked with him about spending time with his child?
2007-01-13 15:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋