We used to have threesomes and swap with other couples..My wife seemed to like it and found no bad feelings with it.We have a good sex life and we are always fine when we do sexual things together.My question is ..If I was to ask her again if she wanted to be active that way would she say yes?I try to talk to her about sex and sexual subjects but she seems like its the farthest thing from her mind.She stays active with other things and if I kind of suggest to have sex or start something she is into it.. This really doesn't matter because i feel secure but im sure she is thinking about things she has done with other guys and couples before..She seems to enjoy especially bi-sexual encounters..and has a fondness for nice looking women..but like I said lately her mind seems to be elsewhere or she doesn't really mention sex unless I do ..Could she be masturbating in the bath ? and she is satisfied with that and me on occasion or Is she craving doing the things we have done before and quite
2007-01-13 15:09:11 · 19 answers · asked by Im C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like her sex drive is just on low right now...how old is she? do you have any kids? is she happy with her body? all of these will influence how sexual a woman is.
as for swinging, you need to talk openly about it...find out what she is thinking, dont guess. Maybe she does miss the touch of another woman...or group sex...or maybe not...wont know until you ask...and be honest about your feelings too
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2007-01-14 10:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Nudist4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, the only way you will know is to simply ask her about what her thought are about reentering the Lifestyle. She may want to but is thinking you don't and therefore isn't bringing it up. Or it may be the farthest thing from her mind right now. It kind of all depends on where you are in your life. We've known many couples that come and go in the Lifestyle, and we've taken a hiatus now and then when our life becomes too busy to include anybody else in it.
And to those with negative comments about swinging... you know nothing about it. Even Bryan M who says he was in the Lifestyle. I'm sure you got into it for the wrong reasons, and therefore had issues.
The point here is the OP asked "what do you think my wife is thinking", not "please, impose your version of morality on me". Remember, just because one way of life works for you, doesn't mean it works for all of the other 6.5 billion people on this planet. Your's isn't the "right" way and differing ways are "wrong". Yours is simply "right" for you.
Im C, check-out The Swingers Board for some good, objective views on what you are thinking.
2007-01-14 06:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK if at one time you two were swapping or swingers you must have had a open honest relationship. Go to her and remind her of the times when you were so open and honest and tell her you have something on your mind and you want to talk about it. I would think after all the two of you have done together you should be able to talk to her about this.
2007-01-13 15:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If she suffers from bipolar illness, and additionally you recognize that she is presently in a manic area, you are able to desire to get her to a counselor right this moment. What she proposes is a delusional obsession... and additionally you recognize rattling sturdy and nicely what it relatively is going to propose on your marriage. whilst she comes back to earth after her mania, she would be in a position to nonetheless bear in mind which you slept with yet another female, whatever she could have executed herself. in case you have been along with her for any length of time, you recognize the character of bipolar and the undesirable judgements a sufferer could make whilst in a manic episode; you are able to desire to be holding her from herself suitable now... regardless of if which potential taking her to the scientific institution till she stabilizes. She is having this episode as a results of emotional and hormonal subject concerns related to being pregnant and the shortcoming of her toddler... she could desire to be below the care of experts acquainted along with her situation till she would be in a position to regain administration. Bipolar isn't the character of the sufferer... and additionally you are able to desire to evaluate it to be a undertaking thoroughly separate out of your relationship whilst she isn't having an episode.
2016-12-13 05:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a perfect example of why people should not 'swing' in the first place. You are now faced with all kinds of insecurities and questions.
You will only get answers from your wife but do not compound the problem by bringing couples or others into it again.
My suggestion would be to tell her you don't want to be with anyone but her and go from there.
Good luck honey and do be careful.
2007-01-13 15:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by outdone 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I agree with John, sex should be between you and your wife ONLY, not with anyone else. Swinging is a horrible lifestyle and will cause nothing but problems. Because there is emotion in sex, and people can get emotionall attached.
Have you ever asked her how she feels about it? Maybe she's doing it because you want her to. Honestly I think you both should quit the lifestyle, because it's only going to cause problems because your going to want more and more, and she may feel like she's not good enough.
2007-01-13 15:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
She could possibly be swinging as you call it on her own. I would really suggest you talk to her, and second get an HIV test. Actions such as those you have encountered in the past can lead to becoming infected easily. I know that had nothing to do with your question, but you should get one anyway. Good luck with your marriage/sex issues.
2007-01-13 15:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by Run Kalula Run 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
suggest a threesome with a hot bi-sexual woman and her well hung husband and you just go along to watch it worked for us
2007-01-14 06:19:29 · answer #8 · answered by jerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask her what is up suggest all the different things she might like its not like you too dont know how to talk about sex so find out and have fun .
2007-01-13 15:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
How are we supposed to know? If you can talk to her about swinging before this, why can't you talk to her about it now?
And I think all the comments about sex only being between two married people are just lame. Do what you two are happy doing, just go talk to her about it.
2007-01-13 15:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sterling 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋