Well i am a really shy person. I'm not really outgoing when i meet new people and i get homesick reallyyy easily. I don't like being like this but it's just how i am. My mom suggested that i do one of those summer abroad things for teenagers because she thought it might help me to have a life changing experience. Do you think its a good idea for me based on my personality to live away from home for a month in another country? Do you think it may help me come out my shell a little more or will i just be miserable?
2007-01-13 14:42:09 · 9 answers · asked by Bella J 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think you should do it. It will be something really good for you, and it's only a month not too long, but long enough to help you deal with it. Sounds good to me, but if you really don't want to then don't do it. Good luck!
2007-01-13 14:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by aimeeme_g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm its hard to say, honestly I think you would be miserable. Unless you really make a decision to not be miserable, no matter what happens it is what you wanted and it was a process, a learning experience. You have to go into it with the right mind set not just force yourself to do something you don't want to.
Really theres nothing wrong with being homesick, but you don't want it to limit you, I understand where you are coming from.
There are little things to develop a more outgoing, personality. When ever you see people from now on I want you to look them in the eyes as they pass. Do that for a while just practice eye contact for a few weeks. After that, everyone you pass in daily life, school, work, grocery store, what ever, Say hello to them in one way or another say Hi hello, how's it going, anything, make yourself do those simple little things. That will take away any anxiety you may have about conversation in general and from there you can begin developing your social aptitude.
Soon you will realize living abroad might be something you would really enjoy, a great experience to see what else is out there.
2007-01-13 14:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by Akshun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely take up on your mom's suggestions. . That is, go to some summer abroad experience; probably like the foreign exchange student program. A change of scenery and environment as well exposure to new friends and acquaintances might do you a world of good. Away from home and from your own comfort zone makes room towards steps to good self adjustment.
Your mom sound like a very neat and cool person to sugggest that. Maybe she realizes the scope of your shyness. Wish, my mom had that kind of attitude when I was growing up. You should keep an open mind. and don't conclude that it might make you feel more miserable. Travelling to a foreign country is a very exciting, and rewarding and enriching experience. it opens you to a whole new field of knowledge and experience not obtainable from books. Good Luck on your sojourn!
Just beware and keep your wits about you. Remember., you as a teenager, are there for personal growth and development. It should be a wholesome experience and not something negative such as indulging in intimate relationships with the opposite sex. My prayers, and well wishes with you.
2007-01-13 14:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by rosieC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should. either way, u may regret never going and wish you had. Theres a whole world out there, dont you think if given
the oppurtunity to see some of it would be fantastic. And if you hate it you can say you tried, thats a start. But it can be alife changing experience for you.
I also think maybe you should talk to a therapist about overcoming your fears as far as socializing, metting new people, being home sick. There's nothing wrong with it, and as you get older you may grow out of it, but oyu have to experience life in order for that to happen. Good luck!!
2007-01-13 15:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, if it were me - i would dread it. i like the familiar. new country means new laws, and customs - or even language. i can't see how it would make someone less shy. if your shy in a familiar enviroment, what makes people think they'll be less shy in a non-familar one.
however it could open your eyes to things you never knew about before. i'd like to take photo's of the place. but live there, probably not. if you found a friend there the friendship could never last due to distance. it would be kind of a waste of time.
but of course if you go there miserable, (programmed your brain to be that way), you will be. because your brain want's you to be happy, and if your happiness is derived from sadness, you'll be fairly upset.
2007-01-13 14:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by mike s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not say what may be good or bad for anyone else. However, I would not leave the country because of all the bad stuff that is happening in other countries.
2007-01-13 14:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a good idea. You should expose yourselfmore to others(positively).
2007-01-13 14:52:29 · answer #7 · answered by Unazaki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT'S ONLY FOR A MONTH AND IT'S NOT THAT LONG. YOU CAN DO IT AND LEARN LOTS BY DOING IT. WISHING YOU THE BEST.
2007-01-13 14:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are determined to do that well i guess you should
2007-01-13 14:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by rockerchick021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋