He's been married three times previously and has recently told her that he's 'scared' to get married. They went through this two months ago, but seemed to have resolved the issue. She's gone and cancelled the wedding day plans. I want to encourage her to tell him to 'GET LOST' but I'm not sure if I should play that sympathetic friend for a bit longer.
What do you guys think?
2007-01-13 14:36:06 · 21 answers · asked by Dani 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To respond to a few questions: Money is not an issue in this case. They both are financially stable--seperately.
She does not necessarily want children with this man. She admits while she sometimes thinks about it, she had previously made a decision that she would not have children.
2007-01-13 14:53:20 · update #1
My sister went through the same thing---63 / 30, He never would marry her and she really loved him. After two years she finally got out, and she is much better off, now.
2007-01-13 14:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by ball_courtney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man who says he's "scared" to get married or "can't commit" is saying he's scared to marry her and can't commit to her.
If she can live without a ring, tell her go ahead. I see red flags all over the place on this one.
Don't push her but I would remind her what it's like to date a 26 year old guy... take her to a club or a baseball game or something. Steer her in the right direction.
2007-01-13 22:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that 'love knows no age', however, there are some things that one just should not do. You need to tell your friend how you feel.
Not that this bit is any of my business, but I think your friend should look for someone younger. There is a quite a disparity between age 60 and 25, and to me they seem in different stages of their lives. He needs to find an older woman, who is in the same place in her life.
2007-01-13 22:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by webstoragea1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to be very honest and without being judgmental-----I think that both of these people have some serious underlying issues----in my humble opinion I dont think this is a good idea and I believe the guy knows this deep down and is the reason he is scared. I hope they make the wise decision here
2007-01-13 22:42:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinkin your BSing us here. No way would a 25 yr old woman ever want to marry a guy 60 yrs old!!!! I'm 53 and I'll tell ya this.....if it were somehow possible that a 25 yr old woman could show me that she was sincere.........I marry her in a heartbeat. (sorry, I know that makes some of you sick but hey, at least I'm being honest)
2007-01-13 22:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she should ask why he has had three previous marriages. Why did they end in divorce? That could give her a clue. She need to ask him about that. It will give her an idea of what her future could be like. Does she want children? Does he? Does she realize he will be on social security in 6 years?
2007-01-13 22:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by David L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestlty i will understand why he would be so scared to marry again, he's 60 years old and he's going through the whole dating scene again. your friend needs to be more understanding. if she feels that she's been in that relationship to long and it's not going anywhere then maybe she should move on
2007-01-13 22:45:52 · answer #7 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what an age difference!! Encourage her to see other people when she's ready to date again. Just be there for her when she needs a listening ear.
2007-01-13 22:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It almost sounds like you would like to have the guy for yourself. That's what I got from the last sentence anyway.
I really think you should leave your friend as she is. If she is happy with what she has way make matters worse. He is pretty much older than her, but hey IF you truly are in love, love with stands alot!
2007-01-13 22:45:08 · answer #9 · answered by cowgirl! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Step back a moment and forget age. No matter what, she is not going to listen to you about her relationship.
Just be there for her if the relationship falls on its face.
2007-01-14 03:01:07 · answer #10 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋