I was molested as a child... almost 10 years ago. Right now I am only 21. Is there anything I can do now that it has been so long? I want to put this sick guy where he belongs... in hell.
2007-01-13 14:33:18 · 10 answers · asked by ElizabethT. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2007-01-13 15:43:19 · answer #1 · answered by ihateacaf0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sympathies on your horrible experience. I feel your pain. I sense you are understandably quite angry and hurt.
From my experience, it is better to acknowledge your past and then move on with your life.
I am not suggesting you to forget the hideous things that he did to you. That would be impossible! But the emotional cost to yourself, if you pursue the punishment of the sicko, keeps you focused on the pain, and not putting it in the past and enjoying the life you have or could have today.
If you can do this on your own great, if not please seek counseling.
Since you are now an adult, and this person would have no interest in molesting you any longer, you have no reason to fear them now.(obviously, because they prey on the weak) If it is within your power to make sure they are not harming other children, then please protect the innocent.
I know in my heart, (and will never have proof - the last person who would have confirmed this has died) that my tormentor had molested other girls. I wish someone had discreetly warned my mom about him.
Oh well, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I have accepted that this happened and my parents didn't protect me, and it is part of my life.
It sure is not the focus of my life because there are too many wonderful things in the world to waste time and energy focusing on such a negative event.
My prayers are with you sweetie. Do not let an event you had no control over make your entire life a misery.
2007-01-14 00:17:10 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_erb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the partner of one and friend of more than a handful of women who are survivors of sexual assault (at ages older than 11, but that makes no difference), I strongly recommend that you go to the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network at www.rainn.org. That organization can connect you with a local counseling group. Go to their website, type in your zip code (assuming you are in the USA), and you'll receive local contact information. Once you have that, the next decision you will face is whether to make the call to them. That is one big step in taking back control of your life.
You owe it to your own mental and physical well-being, your future relationships and other females to examine your options and get emotional support to help you work though the inevitable feelings you've had or will have. According to RAINN, about 44% of victims of rape are under the age of 18. You are not alone, even if you feel you're the only person who's survived such a situation.
Part of the process with RAINN is to discuss with you the options available to address taking action against the perpetrator. Statues of Limitation vary from state to state, and these fine people are well versed on what can and cannot be done. Here in North Carolina, a man in his 40s was recently indicted for a sexual assault against two young girls that occurred 20 years ago when he was 21 and they were 12 or 13.
Statistically, if he's assaulted or molested you when you were a child, he's done it before as well as since. In one potential scenario, action taken against him for what he did to you might being forth other survivors from more recent times and that might enable a successful prosecution.
Heartfelt wishes and best of luck.....
2007-01-14 00:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by winefp2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Honey,
I see you are looking at the skeletons in your closet. I share your experience, one I wish u and I never should have goen thru. Here is my story: I was molested by my dad at the age of 10. I am now 22. I got married to a wonderful man. About a month agoI told my husband my story and b4 I did, I told him to stay calm. He was furious, he confronted my dad for me, my dad and I still talked until this happened, the confrontation was short and very direct. I feel like I took a burden off my shoulders. He dosnt call or look for me, which is great becuz I always remembered what happened but having my husband do all the work I hated thinking about what the best thing. I suggest you talk to some1 about this that will portect you and keep u out of harms way. Your probably single but there is something you can do,.... but u have to do it for yourself
2007-01-16 05:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, you should get a free consultation, from a lawyer. He would be able to tell you, for sure, if you have a case. The man who abused you, should be prosecuted, instead of getting away with it.You were only 11 years old, when it happened and could'nt do much then, so I would try now. The worst thing the lawyer could say, is you don't have a case, but you won't know that, until you talk to him or her. Good Luck!
2007-01-13 22:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by Chihuahua Lover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the state where the abuse occured, which you don't give, it may be 10 years to the "life of the victim". The only problem is it is now going to be your word against his, there will be no physical evidence.
Some things to consider are:
How will this effect you?
Is he still hurting kids?
Can you stand getting ripped apart at trial? Because you will.
If you lose, can you deal with it?
Oh, and you should go to therapy if you aren't already.
2007-01-13 22:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by Sterling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act quickly. Go to a therapist and let them diagnose the effects, then go to the district attorney's office and tell them that you just became aware of the injury you've suffered as a result of the incident. This should get you around any statute of limitations in your state and open him up to civil liability too. That may put him in jail.
or ... be creative and make him wish he were in hell. Send a "very persuasive" person as your "representative" to his home or business to discuss the "terms" of the molesters continued existance in society... either he will comply and later turn himself in just for a little relief in jail, or he'll kill himself, or he won't comply with your terms of "probation" and you can turn him in yourself and he will go to prison and be someones ***** or he'll kill himself.
All options lead to hell for him.
2007-01-14 00:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by fuzzbuster96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I aint forsure you might wanna talk to a lawer about it but I don't think you can do anything. Why didn't you do something about it when it happend. You would of had a better leg to stand on.
2007-01-13 23:48:10 · answer #8 · answered by Babie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u marred? if not got a boy friend, take matters in your own hand an eye for an eye. have them take his a,ss out of the game of life if it really happened
2007-01-14 12:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get counseling it will help you somewhat learn to deal with it but you will never forget it
2007-01-13 22:36:44 · answer #10 · answered by browneyedonna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋